Signs Your Husband Is Cheating With Your Friend

• Finding out that your husband has been cheating on you can be a blow and worse if the person he cheats on you with is someone you consider a friend.
• Unfaithful partners are good at hiding their infidelity and so the very first sign you will ever get is your intuition. You will know that he is cheating on you before you even have evidence to prove that he is cheating on you – and if you are here, this is the first sign that your intuition has led you to search for ways to find tangible proof that your husband is indeed cheating on you.

Statistically speaking, 25% of marriages experience at least one cheating incident and a total of 70% of all married people in America participate in extramarital activities. So if you have a gut feeling that your husband may be cheating on you, there is a 70% chance you are correct.

But how do you know for sure that your husband is cheating on you with your friend? We have come up with a few signs or ways to know if your husband is cheating on you with one of your close friends.

1. YOUR HUSBAND AND FRIEND ARE VISIBLY UNCOMFORTABLE AROUND YOU

This is one of the signs of husband cheating with friend because either one or both of them are riddled with guilt about sneaking behind your back and hooking up. Their body language will be very suspicious and uncomfortable because they will be trying so hard to hide that they have been intimate and in the end make it obvious that they have been intimate. If they are trying super hard to stay out of each other’s way, to avoid touching, and won’t even look each other in the eye – it is a sign that something has happened between them and they are trying so hard to hide it.

2. HE SPENDS MORE TIME AWAY FROM HOME

This is true of all cheating men because they need time to spend with the other person, they will start spending more time away from home (and you). If suddenly he has to work overtime, go out of town for work, or sometimes not even give you a reason for not coming home, your husband is cheating on you.

If you want to be sure that he is cheating on you with your friend, try messaging or calling your friend at the same time(s) your husband says he is working and ask your friend if you can come over. If your friend says no every time, then chances are that your friend is with your husband and either won’t be home or your husband will be at their house.

3. YOU RARELY HEAR FROM YOUR FRIEND ANYMORE

Another way to know if your friend and your husband are having an affair is when all of a sudden your friend becomes too busy to spend time with you. Now, of course, this alone isn’t a sure sign that your friend is hooking up with your husband because people have lives and sometimes those lives get busy and they won’t always have time to hang out or even speak over the phone with you. However, this may be a sign if the change is too sudden and your friend is more dismissive about your attempts to communicate and catch up. This can be because of one of two reasons; either they feel guilty for betraying you and they can’t stand seeing you, or they have decided they are no longer interested in being your friend because they would rather have your husband instead. Either way, you have lost a friend and you can tell when this happens.

4. HE IS EASILY ANNOYED BY YOU

When your husband becomes excessively annoyed by everything you do, it is a sign that he is seeing someone else. If anything you do somehow ends up rubbing him the wrong way and leads to arguments, chances are he is done being with you and staying only as an “obligation” either towards his marriage vows or children if there are any. Your husband will also use these arguments to storm off and go and be with the person he is cheating on you with.

5. HE STARTS DRESSING DIFFERENTLY

Another sign that your husband is cheating on you is if he all of a sudden starts dressing differently and we mean a complete 180 change! Chances are that he wants to look good for the new person he is seeing and to impress them – like he tried to impress you when you had just met.

If you already have your suspicions and want to make sure that it is your friend he is cheating on you with, then this one is very easy to figure out. Look at how your friend’s exes used to dress and compare it with how your husband is currently dressing. If it matches, then you know that your husband is cheating on you with your friend. This is because when it comes to dating, people have types and their type rarely changes so if their dressing style is similar or the same down to the tee, then you know that your husband is trying to impress your friend.

6. HE NO LONGER WANTS TO BE INTIMATE WITH YOU

Another sign that your husband is cheating with your best friend is when he is no longer interested in you sexually. No matter what you do, or how you dress, your husband just seems to never be in the mood to be intimate with you. This is because he is already getting intimate somewhere else.

If you want to know if he is sleeping with a friend you are suspecting, chat up your friend. talk to them about the lack of intimacy in your relationship and watch how they respond to you. The best way to do this is in person so you can see their true reaction to your news. You can tell a lot by a person’s facial expressions even the ones they try to conceal.

7. HE PAYS A LOT OF ATTENTION TO YOUR FRIEND

When you notice that your husband pays a lot of attention to your friend when she comes over or you meet at a gathering. He will always compliment on how good she looks, how nice she is, how friendly, and can’t seem to run out of praises to sing about her – it may be a sign that he is in love with her. Now, this wouldn’t necessarily mean that they are involved with each other or even that she is aware of his feelings – however it is generally considered emotional cheating in a monogamous relationship when one of the partners has romantic feelings towards someone other than their spouse. However, it could also mean that they have been sneaking around behind your back for long enough for him to fall in love with her. If you want to be sure, let it slip that your friend is seeing someone or if she is married, say something positive that her husband did and watch your husband’s reaction. If your husband is having an affair with your friend, he will not want to hear about any of these two things and his reaction towards them will tell you everything you need to know.

WHAT NEXT?

So what happens after you have found out that your husband cheated with your friend? Well, that part is really up to you and your husband. He may decide to leave you and pursue a relationship with your friend even if you choose to stay and try and make it work. And sometimes you may decide to let him go even after he apologizes and wants to try it out. However, on the rare occasion that both you and your husband want to try and make things work – we would recommend couples counseling so you can work through your issues and maybe build up the trust that has now been lost and broken.

Outcomes of Admitting to Infidelity. Source: Comparecamp.com​

Here are some things you can say to someone who cheated on you.

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

• Is my husband attracted to my best friend?

If you ever find yourself thinking “I think my husband likes my friend” it may be an uncomfortable situation to confront because it stems from a place of insecurity that most of us would rather ignore that exists inside of us. However, it is valid and the best way to confront it is to talk to your husband about it – not accuse him but just let him know of what you have been feeling and the reasons why you think this may be true. Unless he admits that he is indeed attracted to your friend, chances are that it is all in your head and there may be an underlying issue that has led you to think so especially if you and your husband have known your friend for quite a while.

On the chance that your husband admits to being attracted to your friend, it is important to remember that admission to attraction is not an admission to infidelity. What he does with his attraction is what’s important. You may need to sit down and have an extensive talk about what his attraction to your friend means.

• What are the signs my husband is cheating on me?

There are many ways that you can know if your husband is cheating on you, aside from the ones shared above. If you notice any of the following, chances are your husband is cheating on you; he accuses you of cheating on him (projection), he suddenly starts showering you with expensive gifts (guilt), he is constantly on his phone texting and hides his texts from you – he even has password-protected everything, there are expenses in your account you cannot trace or make sense of, and he completely stops talking to you. Find out more signs your husband is cheating on you here.

CONCLUSION

If you have a nudging feeling that your husband likes your friend, it may be worth pursuing if you have noticed any of the signs listed above that go along with your gut feeling. Finding out that one of your closest friends and your husband have been sneaking around behind your back can be very scarring emotionally and it is important that you surround yourself with a strong support system that’s going to be there for you no matter what you find out.