fbpx

What to Write in a Sympathy Card for Loss of a Son

WhatToGetMy Instructional Article

Death is inevitable and condolence messages await us all, it’s only a matter of when.

Did you know that the majority of Americans were grieving before the pandemic started? A study done by Amerispeak and WebMD revealed that 57% of Americans were grieving a major loss. Out of the 57%, 32% were mourning the loss of a family member or a close friend, 2% the death of a child, 3% death of a spouse, and 20% death of a pet. If this study was conducted in 2019 before the pandemic, you can only imagine what the stats would currently be since the pandemic started. If you wish to buy memorial gifts for the loss of a child, mother, grandparent, father, daughter, and relative, check our website for more gift suggestions.

Type of loss 57% of Americans experienced: Source Eterneva

57% of Americans experienced major loss in the last 3 years_ type of loss (2019 Study)

HOW TO COME UP WITH A GENUINE SYMPATHY MESSAGE

Our goal is to help you write your own unique and soulful sympathy message for a grieving mother or father. But if you do not have enough time to make one, please scroll down to where we’ve provided samples of sympathy messages you can work with.

1. Empathize with their pain.

If you are close to the family, you probably have an idea of the kind of relationship the deceased had with his family and the kind of affection his parents had for him. He was probably an only son, a breadwinner, the first child, a new baby, the bravest, or whatever the scenario may be, and now he ceases to exist. There is no coming back after a person is gone. So his parents are faced with the truth that they will no longer see their son again until the afterlife (if they believe in life after death). Imagine how life will be for his parents without his presence. Ask yourself if you were in their shoes, how would you feel? Genuine words of comfort for the loss of a son will flow easily when you empathize with the pain of the bereaved.

2. Understand their fears

The loss of a loved one can bring about many fears. A mother or father that is grieving the death of their son might fear what life will be like without the deceased, how they will survive financially and emotionally, whether the deceased is at peace, and lastly, whether the deceased will easily be forgotten by people. By understanding their fears, you are able to address them when comforting the bereaved.

3. Appreciate the life lived by the deceased.

There is a tendency for people to only talk about the good part of a person’s life and character and leave out the not-so-pleasing side. Sadly, this washes down the picture you paint. Secondly, it presents you as a patronizing type of person. And thirdly, your genuineness might be questioned. To write a unique condolence message to a mother who lost her son, teach yourself to appreciate every aspect of the deceased life and the lessons it taught you. Appreciate his ups and downs, his moments of anger and joy, etcetera. Balance the tale.

4. Share your personal experience.

How has the deceased impacted your life? What personal experiences did you have with the deceased and what lessons did you learn from them? By highlighting this in your condolence message, you will be consoling a dad or mom mourning the loss of their son.

To help demonstrate points 3 and 4, check the example below.

HIS MANY INVALUABLE LESSONS…

Charles was a frugal spender in college. He deprived himself of so many things and I detested that about him because I thought it was his nature. One time, I asked him to be kind to himself and live a little because life was short. He laughed so hard and finally said that the time was coming. What I didn’t realize was that he had a vision and he understood the sacrifices he needed to make to achieve his vision. 

Charles called me to join his budding Tech company two years after grad school. He made me a kind offer and promised a better offer in the future. Charles’s call came when I was at a very low point in my career. I was desperately in need of a miracle and when I thought that life had nothing else to offer me, God sent Charles as an answer to my prayer. That Frugal spender at college went on to shape my career and life. 

Mrs. Kane, Charles is like a brother to me, the only one I have ever had. Charles taught so many invaluable lessons and I miss him sorely. I cannot imagine what you are going through as his mother but know that you can count on me in this trying time. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Guidelines to writing a sympathy card or letter

To beautifully write a message of condolences for the death of a son, here are a few tips that could be beneficial.

1. Write your words by hand (But).

The little things count. Instead of buying a condolence card, we encourage that you take out time to write a condolence message. If your writing is so terrible and people can hardly read it, it might be better to type it. However, we recommend that you use Stationery papers like this one on amazon. You will find many designs on Amazon. Use it to write or print your message. It makes everything presentable.

2. Be clear and concise.

You might have a lot to say to his grieving mom or dad, but it is best to keep your message clear and concise. We do not recommend that you write a full page or more. Half a page at most. Messages on cards should be a lot shorter.

3. Avoid touchy topics.

Avoid asking how the deceased died. Their parents or loved ones might not be in the best emotional state to discuss the matter. Secondly, avoid emphasizing how the deceased died. Consider the emotional well-being of their loved ones. Be very kind and sensitive in your message.

4. Use names or appropriate pronouns.

Do not refer to the dead as ‘deceased’ or ‘dead’ in your message. Use his name, nickname, and the right pronouns to refer to the deceased.

5. Format.

How you format or structure your message depends on you. All we only recommend is that you write from your heart. Proofread your condolence message to avoid unnecessary mistakes.

What do you say to someone who has lost their son?

1. “Mrs. Williams, My deepest sympathy for your loss. Your son was the kindest person I know. He touched so many lives with his generosity and profound words of encouragement. I miss him greatly and will always remember him. I pray that God strengthens and helps you through these trying times. If you need any assistance, please do not hesitate to call me.”

You can scroll down for more examples but when expressing words of sympathy for the loss of a son, your message should include one or all of the following;

1. Expression of sympathy:

If you were a friend to the deceased, but you barely know his parent, stick to simple and straightforward expressions like;

 “Mr… or Mrs… (insert name of parent);

  • I am so sorry for your loss.
  • My deepest sympathy for your loss. I can’t imagine what you must be going through.
  • We extend our heartfelt condolences to you and your family through this difficult time.
  • I am saddened by the death of Charles, Sarah, etcetera.
  • Please accept my sincere condolence
  • I am sorry to hear about the passing of (name). I am still in shock.

If you are well acquainted with the parents of the deceased, you can be less formal in expressing your sympathy.

2. State your experience or memory you shared with the deceased:

  • Your son was the kindest person I know. He has touched so many lives with his generosity and I am one of them. I will always remember him.
  • Your son was my friend and colleague. I have never met a person as brave as your son. His memory is forever engraved in my heart.
  • Your son was one of the best employees our company has ever hired. He was very efficient and dependable. We are saddened by his death.

3. Offer thoughtful words to their grieving mom or dad.

  • I pray that God strengthens and helps you through these trying times.
  • My thoughts and prayer are with you and your family through these trying times
  • I wish you light at the end of this dark tunnel
  • May his memory bring you peace and comfort.

4. Offer support if you are able to.

  • I am readily available to help out in any way possible to ensure that the burial goes smoothly.
  • If you need anything, please do not hesitate to call me
  • You can count on my Mrs. or Mr. (name). You do not have to go through this alone.
  • I will ensure that his burial rights are properly catered for.
  • I will like to help you in any way I can, please be free to call on me if you need assistance.

Your words of sympathy for the loss of a grown son should look like this;

2. “Mrs. Williams, My deepest sympathy for your loss. I can’t imagine what you must be going through. Your son was the kindest person I know. He touched so many lives with his generosity and profound insight into life situations. I will always remember him. I pray that God strengthens and helps you through these trying times. If you need assistance, please do not hesitate to call me.”

3. Sir, Your son was one of the best employees our company has ever hired. He was very efficient and dependable. We are saddened by the death of Bukky. We are terribly sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family through these trying times. We will ensure that his burial rights are properly catered for.

4. Oh Sarah, I cannot believe that Charles is gone. Our heart aches for you and your family. We are here for you and you can always talk to me.

5. My deepest sympathy for your loss Abby. I can’t imagine what you might be going through. Mark was my friend and colleague. He is like a brother to me. I have never met someone as brave as your son. His memory is forever engraved in my heart. I wish you light at the end of this dark tunnel. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family through these trying times.

6. It has been a big privilege knowing your son. He is a remarkable man and his legacy will live on. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Loss of a baby sympathy quotes

Here are a few lovely quotes for loss of son;

  1. “Angels leave unforgettable prints in our lives”
  2. “We love him but God loves him more”
  3. “If our love was enough to save you, you will live forever”
  4. “Sometimes the smallest things take up the most room in our heart”
  5. “Even those that never fully blossom bring beauty into this world”

IN ADDITION

1. What to say when there are no words?

You do not have to say anything if you are still in shock about the loss. You can also be honest about how you feel;

  • I don’t know what to say Bill, I am still in shock.

You can also express yourself by being there for the person grieving. Cook, clean, and help out in whatever way you can. Give them hugs if it will help them.

We have provided words of sympathy for the loss of a son by checking out this article.

2. How do you write a meaningful sympathy card message?

You can write a meaningful sympathy message for loss of son by following these steps;

  1. Expression of sympathy, for example, “I am deeply saddened by the death of Ron”
  2. State your experience with the deceased or memory you shared with them, for example, “Kennedy was a man of principle. He was always jovial and had a way of lifting the most depressed soul
  3. Offer thoughtful words to their grieving mom or dad, for example, “I pray that God comforts and help you and your family to get through this heavy loss
  4. Offer support if you can provide it, for example, “I and Sarah will be looking after Gill until you are strong enough to look after her yourself if that is fine with you.”

LAST WORDS

Coming up with comforting words for parents who lost a child is not easy but we hope that this article helps you to write a unique and beautiful message for a mom or dad that is grieving the death of their son.

01 HOUR 14 MINUTES

ESTIMATED TIME DESIGNING AND UPLOADING THIS ARTICLE

10 HOURS 56 MINUTES

ESTIMATED TIME RESEARCHING AND WRITING THIS ARTICLE

You Might Also Like

Sympathy Gift Ideas for Loss of Father

7 Sympathy Gift Ideas for Loss of Father

Grief is experienced and expressed differently by different people If you have a friend who is going through a mourning period and their emotions are all over the place, be patient with them. It is all part of the grieving process. In most cultures, it

Read More »
SYMPATHY GIFTS FOR LOSS OF GRANDFATHER

23 Lovely Sympathy Gifts for Loss of Grandfather

The loss of a loved one comes with various emotions like sadness, shock, disbelief, helplessness, regrets, wishes, depression etcetera. Sometimes we may not fully understand how a bereaved feels and therefore we may find it difficult to console them with the right words.  Gifts are

Read More »
WHAT TO SAY TO SOMEONE WHO LOST THEIR GRANDMA

What to Say to Someone Who Lost Their Grandma

What to Say to Someone Who Lost Their Grandma WhatToGetMy Instructional Article Losing a grandma is one of the saddest and hardest times in a person’s life. When your friend has lost their grandma, you will want to do and say something that will make

Read More »
IDEAS ON WHAT TO WRITE IN A CARE PACKAGE CARD

11 Ideas on What to Write in a Care Package Card

11 Ideas on What to Writein a Care Package Card WhatToGetMy Instructional Article Wondering what to write on a care package card? Or do you still struggle with the right care package message ideas? This article will help you on how to write the perfect

Read More »