What to Write in a Sympathy Card for Loss of a Son

Charles was a frugal spender in college. He deprived himself of so many things and I detested that about him because I thought it was his nature. One time, I asked him to be kind to himself and live a little because life was short. He laughed so hard and finally said that the time was coming. What I didn’t realize was that he had a vision and he understood the sacrifices he needed to make to achieve his vision. 

Charles called me to join his budding Tech company two years after grad school. He made me a kind offer and promised a better offer in the future. Charles’s call came when I was at a very low point in my career. I was desperately in need of a miracle and when I thought that life had nothing else to offer me, God sent Charles as an answer to my prayer. That Frugal spender at college went on to shape my career and life. 

Mrs. Kane, Charles is like a brother to me, the only one I have ever had. Charles taught so many invaluable lessons and I miss him sorely. I cannot imagine what you are going through as his mother but know that you can count on me in this trying time. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Guidelines to writing a sympathy card or letter

To beautifully write a message of condolences for the death of a son, here are a few tips that could be beneficial.

1. Write your words by hand (But).

The little things count. Instead of buying a condolence card, we encourage that you take out time to write a condolence message. If your writing is so terrible and people can hardly read it, it might be better to type it. However, we recommend that you use Stationery papers like this one on amazon. You will find many designs on Amazon. Use it to write or print your message. It makes everything presentable.

2. Be clear and concise.

You might have a lot to say to his grieving mom or dad, but it is best to keep your message clear and concise. We do not recommend that you write a full page or more. Half a page at most. Messages on cards should be a lot shorter.

3. Avoid touchy topics.

Avoid asking how the deceased died. Their parents or loved ones might not be in the best emotional state to discuss the matter. Secondly, avoid emphasizing how the deceased died. Consider the emotional well-being of their loved ones. Be very kind and sensitive in your message.

4. Use names or appropriate pronouns.

Do not refer to the dead as ‘deceased’ or ‘dead’ in your message. Use his name, nickname, and the right pronouns to refer to the deceased.

5. Format.

How you format or structure your message depends on you. All we only recommend is that you write from your heart. Proofread your condolence message to avoid unnecessary mistakes.

What do you say to someone who has lost their son?

1. “Mrs. Williams, My deepest sympathy for your loss. Your son was the kindest person I know. He touched so many lives with his generosity and profound words of encouragement. I miss him greatly and will always remember him. I pray that God strengthens and helps you through these trying times. If you need any assistance, please do not hesitate to call me.”

You can scroll down for more examples but when expressing words of sympathy for the loss of a son, your message should include one or all of the following;

1. Expression of sympathy:

If you were a friend to the deceased, but you barely know his parent, stick to simple and straightforward expressions like;

 “Mr… or Mrs… (insert name of parent);

• I am so sorry for your loss.
• My deepest sympathy for your loss. I can’t imagine what you must be going through.
• We extend our heartfelt condolences to you and your family through this difficult time.
• I am saddened by the death of Charles, Sarah, etcetera.
• Please accept my sincere condolence
• I am sorry to hear about the passing of (name). I am still in shock.

If you are well acquainted with the parents of the deceased, you can be less formal in expressing your sympathy.

2. State your experience or memory you shared with the deceased:

• Your son was the kindest person I know. He has touched so many lives with his generosity and I am one of them. I will always remember him.
• Your son was my friend and colleague. I have never met a person as brave as your son. His memory is forever engraved in my heart.
• Your son was one of the best employees our company has ever hired. He was very efficient and dependable. We are saddened by his death.

3. Offer thoughtful words to their grieving mom or dad.

• I pray that God strengthens and helps you through these trying times.
• My thoughts and prayer are with you and your family through these trying times
• I wish you light at the end of this dark tunnel
• May his memory bring you peace and comfort.

4. Offer support if you are able to.

• I am readily available to help out in any way possible to ensure that the burial goes smoothly.
• If you need anything, please do not hesitate to call me
• You can count on my Mrs. or Mr. (name). You do not have to go through this alone.
• I will ensure that his burial rights are properly catered for.
• I will like to help you in any way I can, please be free to call on me if you need assistance.

Your words of sympathy for the loss of a grown son should look like this;

2. “Mrs. Williams, My deepest sympathy for your loss. I can’t imagine what you must be going through. Your son was the kindest person I know. He touched so many lives with his generosity and profound insight into life situations. I will always remember him. I pray that God strengthens and helps you through these trying times. If you need assistance, please do not hesitate to call me.”

3. Sir, Your son was one of the best employees our company has ever hired. He was very efficient and dependable. We are saddened by the death of Bukky. We are terribly sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family through these trying times. We will ensure that his burial rights are properly catered for.

4. Oh Sarah, I cannot believe that Charles is gone. Our heart aches for you and your family. We are here for you and you can always talk to me.

5. My deepest sympathy for your loss Abby. I can’t imagine what you might be going through. Mark was my friend and colleague. He is like a brother to me. I have never met someone as brave as your son. His memory is forever engraved in my heart. I wish you light at the end of this dark tunnel. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family through these trying times.

6. It has been a big privilege knowing your son. He is a remarkable man and his legacy will live on. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Loss of a baby sympathy quotes

Here are a few lovely quotes for loss of son;

1. “Angels leave unforgettable prints in our lives”
2. “We love him but God loves him more”
3. “If our love was enough to save you, you will live forever”
4. “Sometimes the smallest things take up the most room in our heart”
5. “Even those that never fully blossom bring beauty into this world”

IN ADDITION

1. What to say when there are no words?

You do not have to say anything if you are still in shock about the loss. You can also be honest about how you feel;

• I don’t know what to say Bill, I am still in shock.

You can also express yourself by being there for the person grieving. Cook, clean, and help out in whatever way you can. Give them hugs if it will help them.

We have provided words of sympathy for the loss of a son by checking out this article.

2. How do you write a meaningful sympathy card message?

You can write a meaningful sympathy message for loss of son by following these steps;

1. Expression of sympathy, for example, “I am deeply saddened by the death of Ron”
2. State your experience with the deceased or memory you shared with them, for example, “Kennedy was a man of principle. He was always jovial and had a way of lifting the most depressed soul”
3. Offer thoughtful words to their grieving mom or dad, for example, “I pray that God comforts and help you and your family to get through this heavy loss”
4. Offer support if you can provide it, for example, “I and Sarah will be looking after Gill until you are strong enough to look after her yourself if that is fine with you.”

LAST WORDS

Coming up with comforting words for parents who lost a child is not easy but we hope that this article helps you to write a unique and beautiful message for a mom or dad that is grieving the death of their son.