• SHE IS INTERESTED IN THE OTHER GUY 

If you have to ask “why is my girlfriend looking at other guys?” it means you have noticed it has been going on for a while and it bothers you that she does this. The most obvious, and therefore first on our list is that she is interested in the other guy. Pay attention to the kind of guy(s) she is looking at; are they all similar in some way? Height, weight, sense of style, hygiene, parlance? Are they similar to you or completely different? But most importantly, is it the same guy, or is she looking at different guys. Because if she is looking at different guys, chances are she is just admiring from afar but likely won’t do anything about it. However, if you frequent a place and your girlfriend keeps looking at the same guy every time you catch her, she might be imagining what life would be like with him and creating a whole future with him in her head. Now, whether this is something you need to worry about or not, depends on the kind of person your girlfriend is. Some people just like to fantasize about a different life, especially when things have gotten a little routine ergo boring in the relationship. This doesn’t mean that they will run off with the person they are fantasizing about because they value and love you even in the rut that your relationship has found itself in. 

On the other hand, you have people that will run away to go and live their fantasy the minute an opportunity to do so presents itself. Now, only you know what kind of person your girlfriend is and therefore, it is only you who can determine whether you need to be worried that she is interested in another man or not. 

• SHE THINKS THE OTHER GUY IS CUTE 

Asking the question “why does my girlfriend look at other guys in the club?” implies that you have noticed, on more than one occasion, your girlfriend looking at another man every time you have gone out with her. This, of course, is concerning because it can make you feel insecure especially when you catch her looking at men who you think she finds attractive, and who might sometimes look better than you. 

The biggest issue here is your insecurity, which you need to put into introspection. As yourself why do you feel insignificant and small when your girlfriend looks at other men, what is it about them that you secretly admire or aspire to be? Now, this is not to absolve your girlfriend of her behavior, no. it simply is to make yourself aware of your actions and reactions and look deep within yourself to understand why this bothers you so much. 

Now onto your girlfriend’s behavior, it can feel a little bit disrespectful and insensitive when she looks at other men adoringly, especially when you are right there and she doesn’t try to be discrete about it. She could be doing this subconsciously because she is looking for a better mate and she is only with you because she doesn’t want to be alone. Or she could be doing it on purpose because it is something that you do, too. Or she could just think it is harmless to look at a man she thinks is attractive because she knows it will not go beyond her looking at him. 

This is why it is important that you and your girl have a discussion about things that make you uncomfortable and what you would consider cheating in the relationship. While she may think that it is harmless to look at another man because she merely thinks he is cute, it might be harmful to your self-esteem. However, it is important to remember that your girlfriend can only do so much to help you ease your low self-esteem issues. It is up to you to find solutions that work to cope with your insecurities. 

• SHE IS ADMIRING SOMETHING 

Sometimes your girlfriend looks at other guys not because she is interested in the guy but because she is admiring something that the other guy has on them. Maybe it is a hat they think would look great on you or a pair of shoes they like and wondering where they can get a similar pair for you or another significant male figure in their life (father, brother, son, etc.) and you can tell this is the case when it is not a frequent occurrence. If you occasionally catch your girl looking at other men take notice of what and where her eyes land and maybe take notice of anything in that area that might interest her or catch her eye in any way. Sometimes, and only ever sometimes, your woman staring at another man is harmless and no cause for panic whatsoever. 

• SHE HAS SPACED OUT 

Another (un) likely reason why your girlfriend is looking at other guys could be because she has simply spaced out and doesn’t even notice that she is staring at another guy. This happens to a lot of us, you are sitting down, planning your day and your mind wanders and when you look up its been five minutes and the guy opposite you is looking at you funny and you’re about to say something when you realize that you may have been staring at him and that made him uncomfortable so you mumble an apology and get back to your task. This is a fairly common occurrence, especially to people who like to be stimulated mentally, in the absence of mental stimulation, their minds wander and sometimes their eyes may land on an unsuspecting victim who will be left wondering why that weird lady with the glossed-over eyes wouldn’t stop staring at them at the coffee shop. 

One way to bring your girlfriend out of her haze is to spark an interesting conversation with her that will bring her back to reality and engage with you and other people in real-time. Again, only you can know how to do this because you know your girlfriend and the kinds of things that interest her. 

• SHE IS NO LONGER IN LOVE WITH YOU 

Now we had to save the best one for last just to keep things interesting. Another obvious reason why your girlfriend is looking at other guys could be simply because she is no longer in love with you but is trying to find your replacement before she physically leaves the relationship. I am sure you have heard people say “women leave the relationship mentally before they leave physically”? Well, this is true for most women, they would rather have a backup plan than leaving a relationship without any prospects in the wings. So if you keep catching your girlfriend looking at other men around you, it might be time to assess your relationship. How solid is it? Has there been something that your girl has been complaining about that you have been ignoring? Has she expressed that she is unhappy and unfulfilled in the relationship? Has she spoken to you about feeling stuck and that the relationship isn’t going anywhere? Search for the small signs that you may have ignored thinking they didn’t mean anything because women are always dropping hints and men are always ignoring them. Do not be blindsided, look for the problem in your relationship and resolve it before she finds someone else to replace you with. 

WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT 

• TALK TO HER 

The first thing you should do when you notice a pattern of your girlfriend looking at other men is to sit down with her and tell her how uncomfortable it makes you. If she is someone who truly cares about you she will listen and change to make things better for you so you are not constantly worrying despite her reasons for having done it in the first place. This is where you get to truly see the kind of person your girlfriend is, if she dismisses you or tries to gaslight you, then you know this isn’t a relationship worth pursuing because she will be a lying girlfriend should you decide to continue with the relationship and you will constantly feel undervalued and anxious. However, if she apologizes for making you feel insecure because of her actions and takes steps in remedying her actions, then you know she is a keeper because she genuinely cares about your feelings.  

• GIVE HER AN ULTIMATUM 

When you have talked to your girlfriend about her behavior and she still seems to not be able to or even willing to try to stop ogling other guys when you are out together, then it is fairly okay to give her an ultimatum. Either she stops looking at other men while she is out with you or she stops being your girlfriend altogether. This is a great solution because whatever she chooses, you get your answer as to what kind of girlfriend she is going to be. 

• MAKE LIFE EXCITING FOR HER

As stated above, one of the main reasons why your girlfriend is looking at other men is because she is fantasizing about exciting new beginnings with them because your relationship has become stale and boring. This is normal especially when the relationship has been long. The initial chemistry fades and the reality of daily routine settles in and that can become boring quickly. Be spontaneous, ask her what she wants to do, take her out on dates, go on vacations together, and do as much as you can in your capacity to keep the chemistry and romance in the relationship going. Most women appreciate the effort, and a lot of men stop trying once the relationship has settled in. start trying again, do the things you used to do when you were courting her, and never stop courting her. 

• LEAVE HER 

And lastly, if your girlfriend is unwilling to change, you should leave her because it is obvious that she does not like you very much or value you as a person with feelings that are bound to get hurt by a lack of consideration and decency from her part. 

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS 

• How do you know if your girlfriend is seeing other guys?

You will know that your girlfriend is seeing other guys when she starts ignoring you and won’t spend time with you at all or very rarely. This is a sign that your girl is seeing other people and doesn’t have time to spend with you. Of course, this doesn’t apply if she is busy with school or work. However, if she never seems to make any time for you, it is an early telltale sign that you are no longer a priority to her. 

• What does it mean if your girlfriend is staring at you? 

Your girlfriend staring at you is mostly her admiring you. It is one of the signs that she is deeply in love with you and can’t believe what a catch you are. If you catch your girlfriend staring at you a lot, it just means that she really really likes looking at you. 

CONCLUSION 

In conclusion, this article has covered 5 reasons why your girlfriend might be looking at other men when you are out and about with her. We have also proposed what you can do in the event that you have noticed a pattern with your girlfriends behavior and hopefully you have found the answers you were looking for and how to go about handling your situation. Wishing you all the best.