What to Do when Your Girlfriend Lied to You - 7 Ways How to Deal with a Lying Girlfriend.

While there is no definite scientific study we have seen to back this up, some liars tend to display these body language signs. Pay attention to whether your girlfriend displays these signs. She is likely to be lying to you if she displays most or all of these body language signs when talking about the issue.

8. She starts accusing you more of lying than usual even when it is uncalled for.

Is your girlfriend suddenly calling you a liar at every turn and for everything you do? This is usually reverse psychology and projection. She’s projecting her own dishonesty on you as a way of making herself feel better about her lies. Pay attention to the things she is quick to accuse you of being dishonest about. Those are likely the things she’s lying to you about.

9. Several people tell you she’s not being honest with you on the issue.

This one can hurt and be embarrassing. While you should not just believe the words of one person because they may have ulterior motives, you should certainly be worried if several people say the same thing. Pay attention if more than 2 – 3 people keep pointing to dishonesty by your girlfriend on an issue(s).

My girlfriend lied to me, what should I do? What to do with a lying girlfriend.

Like we said earlier, we all lie in one way or another. Even you would have told your girlfriend some lie at one point or the other in your relationship.

And thus knowing that no one is infallible when it comes to telling lies should make us less quick to immediately take the moral high ground. It means that we should instead be more practical and thoughtful about how we deal with the various lies we meet in our everyday human interactions, especially in your relationship with your girlfriend.

This is not to at all justify a girlfriend who lies a lot. Here are 7 practical and thoughtful ways how to deal with a lying girlfriend.

1. Be sure she is lying to you. Have concrete evidence first.

Falsely accusing her would also have a negative effect on the relationship and put it under strain. This is why it is important to ensure that you have concrete evidence first. Sometimes it could just be an unfounded suspicion based on your paranoia or past bad experiences.

2. Decide first how much of a big deal the lie is to you in the larger scheme of the relationship and whether it is a deal-breaker for you.

If she told what is generally known as a “white lie” which doesn’t hurt you but appears to have been said to protect your feelings, then you might want to be more understanding. Especially, if you wouldn’t have done any differently if you were in her shoes.

If however, the lies touch on something much bigger like cheating or maybe lying about who she is, then it becomes more serious. Ask and decide if you can still trust her and continue with the relationship, or whether it is a deal-breaker for you.

3. Talk to her about the lie(s) in as less confrontational a manner as possible.

Whether you decide to continue with the relationship or to call it quits, you will still need to talk to her about the lies you discovered. Talking to her about it is the adult thing to do. Be as calm and less confrontational as possible during the conversation.

It would not be easy to be calm and less confrontational when you confront her with the evidence you have. But it is important to do this so that she doesn’t become defensive and the conversation spirals out of control.

4. Pay attention to her response and whether there is any genuine remorse.

If she’s only sorry that she got caught, then there is no genuine remorse on her part. If she turns around to want to apportion some of the blame on you for her actions, then there is no remorse on her part. If she wants to play down your hurt and make it seem as though you are making too much of a big deal out of it and “overreacting”, she is also not remorseful.

And if she doesn’t show genuine remorse then there would be no point continuing with the relationship because believe it or not, she will continue treating you that way.

Her lack of remorse means that she sees nothing wrong with her actions and would have no problems continuing with them. And unless you’re okay with her continuing to lie to you and treat you in this way, you are better off without the relationship.

A person who shows no remorse and/or refuses to apologize when they’ve lied to you has no respect for you. Check out our articles on What to do when people don’t respect you and What to do when someone won’t apologize for what to do in such circumstances.

5. Should you decide to continue with the relationship and depending on the severity of the lie, you may need to do something drastic like a short separation to get the message across that you are not happy with being lied to and would not take it.

This is important because until she gets the message that you are not okay with the lies she told, she will continue with it.

And sometimes, accepting her apology without more would give her the impression that she can keep lying and getting away with it simply by apologizing.

But with this separation, she gets to feel what it would be like losing you over a lie. And if she is genuinely sorry about the lie and serious about not continuing with it, she will come back more remorseful and committed to not lie to you.

6. Should she come back after the short breakup truly remorseful and make a genuine commitment, to be honest, forgive her, and continue with the relationship.

To err they say is human, and to forgive divine. Always remember that tomorrow it may be you on the other side needing her to be gracious and forgive you should you be remorseful. And thus, you should extend her the same grace if she is genuinely remorseful and makes a commitment, to be honest forthwith.

You may like this related article on How to forgive your spouse for past mistakes.

7. Should the lies continue, it may be best to call the relationship quits.

You don’t want to be with a girlfriend who is a pathological liar because it’s only a matter of time before the relationship becomes extremely toxic and unhealthy. A relationship where your girlfriend lies about everything and lies all the time isn’t a healthy relationship to be in because she would make you start to question your sanity and sensibilities and this would, in turn, affect your mental health.