9 Signs He Told His Friends about You

DO GUYS TALK ABOUT THEIR CRUSHES?

The answer is super yes, guys talk about the ladies in their lives. If a guy has a ‘thing’ for you or with you, he will tell his closest pals about you. The next question might be, how much info do guys share with their friends? We cannot speak for every guy. However, what and how much a guy discloses about his love life may depend on; 1) his views about his relationship, and partner, 2) the subject he and his buddies are discussing, and 3) his level of maturity.

1. VIEW ABOUT RELATIONSHIP AND PARTNER

If a guy has something serious going on with a lady, the last thing he wants to do is to hide her from people close to him. That’s not to say that if he uses a lady to pass time or knows a lady is crushing on him, his buddies won’t know about it. Guys confide in their closest buddies about their love/lust life. It’s therapy. However, he will not reveal too much about the lady he likes so as not to put her in a vulnerable position. He will only let his friends know basic details about her.

If a lady likes a guy and the feeling is not mutual, there is no telling how much he will spill about the lady to his friends. If you are not sure about his feelings towards you, you might find our article ‘Signs a man is emotionally connected to you’ enlightening.

2. TOPIC UNDER DISCUSSION

When a guy has a lady in his life, she will come up in random discussions. If his friends are talking about any topic and aspect of her life fits the discussion, he will chip that into the conversations. It could be a trip she took or the killer picture she has in her gallery. He will not share more than the topic needs.

3. LEVEL OF MATURITY

While there is no dispute that guys talk about ladies, an immature guy would not know where to draw the line. He will say virtually everything including aspects of a lady’s life she does not want anyone to know. An immature guy will put you in a vulnerable position with his friends. If his friends get uncomfortably familiar with you, he may have shared a little bit too much than he should have.

WHAT DOES IT MEAN WHEN A GUY TELLS HIS FRIENDS ABOUT YOU?

Relationships go through stages. When a guy begins to tell his friends and family about you, it means that the relationship has gotten to the integration stage. Relationship experts say that parties involved in the relationship at the integration stage want people around them to begin to recognize them as a unit. At this stage, it means that the guy is certain about you to an extent.

However, other interpretations should not be ignored. Apart from the fact that introducing you to his friends could mean that he likes you and wants to build with you, it could also mean that he sees you as a nice person, not a lover. It could mean anything. You have to first ask yourself honest questions about the relationship before concluding. If he hasn’t asked you to be his girlfriend, you probably do not want to read too much meaning into his actions.

In case it is a complicated situation between the both of you, how his friends relate with you could provide you with clarity about his stance in the ‘situationship’ you are having with him. How they act towards you and around you is often influenced by the conversations he has had about you with them or the conversation he is still having about you with them. You mustn’t rush to hasty conclusions about the interpretations of certain actions. If you are dealing with a narcissist for example, you could just be a supply. A narcissist introducing you to his friends might be a deliberate move to gain your trust enough to use you, and or, hurt his ex.

SIGNS HE TOLD HIS FRIENDS ABOUT YOU

If you have a thing going on with a guy, there is no denying that he will talk about you to his buddies/ circle even before you meet them. Here are some signs to look out for if ever you wonder whether he told his friends about you;

1. HE INVITES YOU TO A PHONE/ VIDEO CONVERSATION WITH HIS FRIENDS

If he is chatting with his friend over the phone and he invites you to say hi to his friend, it is a sign that he has told his friends about you. Guys rarely do this with any lady.

2. HE IS COMFORTABLE WITH YOU MEETING HIS FRIENDS IN PERSON

If he comfortably invites his friends over when you are around or he invites you to attend events his friends will be attending, he has told his friends about you. A guy that likes you will get you acquainted with the people he values.

3. HE PUBLICLY SHOWS YOU AFFECTIONS

Guys are careful about misrepresentation and giving false signals about their love life. If he publicly shows you affection, then he has told his friends about you. This includes posting you on his social media pages and calling you pet names even when he is hanging out with his buddies.

4. FRIENDLINESS

If a guy likes you, the last thing his buddies will do is to act unfriendly or unsupportive of his relationship. They will try as much as possible to make his girlfriend or crush have a sense of belonging in their crew. They start being nice to you way before you meet them in person. When you finally meet them in person, they will be super nice. They may offer drinks, snacks, and strike conversations. If his friends are so nice to you, it is a sign he told his friends about you. They have to make you feel welcome because they know how much their friend values you. Their niceness will feel like they’ve known you for a while.

5. JEALOUSY

While his friends will undoubtedly show him support by being friendly to his lady or female friend, a few of them will not hesitate to point out that you’ve been monopolizing their friend’s time and that he pays less attention to them. You may hear something like “oh she’s the one keeping you busy these days huh?”

6. TELL YOU WHAT THEY HEARD

Do not expect his friends to act completely ignorant of you, however, they will not show you how much they know about you. If they act ignorant of you, then be worried. It means the guy that you are hanging out with might not be honest with you.

The more you converse with his buddies and they feel free around you, they will tell you what they’ve heard about you. They could make statements like “I heard you love dogs…” or “You are an Arsenal fan huh?”. This is probably the easiest way to know that he told them about you. This does not always happen in the first meeting, but it could happen depending on the occasion and how they rate your personality.

Sometimes, they could ask you leading questions to get you to say what they have heard about you. For example, if they heard that you are a Havard Scholar, they might ask you where you studied. Do not think certain questions are random.

7. TRY TO IMPRESS YOU

Let’s assume that a guy and a lady have been chatting for a while and he is trying to get her to trust him and accept his proposal; if he invites her to a hangout with some of his friends, she should not be surprised if his friends try to impress her.

A guy’s friends will do well by presenting their friend in a positive light. The goal is to convince the lady he likes that he is a great guy. They will not overtly do this. They will also not market their friend like someone trying to get a person to buy their product. Instead, they will be in the best of behaviors. They will subtly highlight his great qualities. Their goal is to create a good impression of their friend. This will convince you that you are making the right move if you make up your mind to be with their friend.

8. COMFORTABLY ADVISE YOU

His buddies will give you helpful suggestions about restaurants, destinations, organizations, prayers, etcetera if they think it would be helpful to you. Their actions will show that they are looking out for you.

9. THEY WHISPER OR USE CODED LANGUAGE WHEN THEY SEE YOU

If the guy has a crush on you but the both of you do not have a ‘thing’ together, do not get surprised when you notice some funny actions between him and his buddies. Let’s assume that you are coincidentally at the venue where he is hanging out with his friends and they notice you, they will give off an impression that they are chatting about you without meaning to give out such an impression. If you observe weird behaviors from him and his friends, just know that he has told them about you.

WHY DOES HE WANT ME TO MEET HIS FRIENDS

If a guy wants you to meet his friends, it is because he has told them about you and they are as excited to be a part of your life as he is already a part of your life. A guy that proposes a meeting with his friend is trying to make things official between the both of you. He wants his friends to recognize you as his lady wherever and whenever they meet you. It means that he feels strongly about you and envisions a life with you. Whether or not ‘together forever’ happens is another story. If a guy wants you to meet with his friends, he believes in both of you being together and making things work. He is defining the role he wants to play in your life.

But there are exceptions to such meetings too. Not every guy that wants you to meet his friends has good intentions. This all boils down to his character, level of maturity, and the kind of friends he keeps. A guy might take a lady to meet his friends just to prove a point. Is this childish, yes but it happens. On such occasions, you won’t meet his friends often, at most, twice.

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

1. Why does a guy not tell his friends about you?

If he hasn’t told his friends about you, it is either because;

• He is not yet sure about both of you. He has a good level of doubt about the relationship
• He wants to establish something tangible with you first before he tells his friends. It still boils down to the first point. A guy needs to have a certain level of assurance that the both of you will work.
• He has no friends. This is not a good thing. No one should be an Island. Having friends is important, even just one friend is great.
• He doesn’t really like you or sees a future with you. Having an intimate relationship with a guy does not automatically boil down to him wanting to have a relationship with you. It could be that he sees what both of you share as just casual. Well, if he has not defined his role in your life as a boyfriend, do not assume he is. If your sexual values differ, make your intentions known and stop giving more than you should.

2. Is he interested or just friends?

If a guy just wants to be friends, he will never speak of the future with you. He will have conversations about his past relationships but will never really mention you in his present life. Do not expect him to check on you regularly. By regularly, we do not mean every minute, but he will be interested in your daily activity and, therefore, will check on you each day. Most times, the conversation between the both of you is casual, hardly ever any intimate chats. He makes you aware that he is interested in pursuing other women. He never tries to impress you when he is meeting up with you. Check our article Signs a man is emotionally connected to you if you want to know whether he sees you as more than a friend.

FINAL THOUGHTS

Good partners are hard to come by these days and if a guy likes you enough to introduce you to his friends, then he is pretty serious about you being a huge part of his life. Telling his friends about you is usually a good sign if he has made his intentions clear to you and his actions show you that he is interested in you. However, there are exceptions. Be observant. Be sure you are not being used.