17 Signs Your Husband Is Planning to Leave You.

12. He is suddenly disrespectful to you almost all the time.

Being disrespectful to you becomes second nature and he does not care about how this makes you feel. In addition to our article on What to do when your husband doesn’t respect you, you can also read our article on What to do when people don’t respect you. These articles will help you with knowing how to handle his sudden disrespect.

13. He does things behind your back without your input or knowledge.

You start to realize that he is making major family decisions without your knowledge nor does he have the decency and courtesy to seek out your input. You only get to know much later about his decisions after he’s acted on them. And in some instances, you would be the last person to know and have to hear about it from other people.

14. He stops defending you in public, especially from members of his family.

In the past, he would not allow anyone to talk down on you for any reason. He always defended you from members of his family who came at you. But now, all of that has changed. He doesn’t bat an eyelid when you are attacked in public and he encourages such attacks by his silence.

15. Money is suspiciously and surreptitiously being moved around and you are kept in the dark about it.

When he starts moving money without your knowledge, that is as bad as it gets that he is without a shadow of a doubt leaving you. He is already making arrangements for his financial safety net away from the home. He would also move the finances so that in the event of a divorce, he leaves you with little to nothing. Once you start noticing money moving suspiciously, speak to a lawyer about your options.

16. He no longer talks with/confides in you and you suspect he’s doing that elsewhere outside the home.

He used to confide in you in the past and you always talked about everything. But now, he has clammed up and shut you out. If you suspect he’s now confiding in someone else outside the home, you are probably not wrong. Men who zone out of the home tend to have emotional affairs with other women outside the home.

17. He becomes suspiciously secretive about his things like his phones, emails, e.t.c.

You may notice that he is suddenly very jumpy and possessive about his things. When you touch his phone, for example, he may flare up and accuse you of things you cannot understand.

Look out for these signs so that you are mentally prepared and know what to do about your husband wanting to leave you.

What to do if your husband wants to leave you – 5 Things to do.

Should you notice any of the signs listed above, here are 5 things you should do.

1. Try talking with him first.

Try to engage him in a conciliatory dialogue about your observations and how you can both find a way to work on saving the marriage. Be however mentally prepared that this conversation may not yield a positive outcome especially if he is hell-bent on leaving. But you would have at least tried.

2. Don’t be pushy or try to control him.

This will only serve to frustrate you and push him further away. Rather than fight and try to push him around or control him, resist that urge. 

3. Avoid letting his actions affect your emotional health and well-being.

As much as possible, ignore him and focus on yourself and your children. Your emotional health and well-being should not also fall victim to his actions. Make a conscious effort to not let his actions get to you. 

4. And where this becomes problematic and he is unwilling to change, take the bulls by the horn and suggest a separation to help you both figure things out.

This is important to preserve your emotional health and sanity. No marriage is worth your emotional well-being and sanity.

5. Be mentally prepared that this might be the end of your marriage if he is not willing to change and work things out.

You might have to accept that this is the end of the road for your marriage, especially if he is unwilling to change and work things out in the marriage.

This useful article on When should you give up on a relationship can also help you.

Frequently asked questions.

1. How do you know if your husband wants a divorce?

Some husbands will come out outrightly and tell you they want a divorce so that you don’t have to speculate about whether or not he wants a divorce. But some others are not brave enough and would much rather leave enough clues in the hopes that you do the work for them and suggest a divorce. The clues listed in this article are some of the clues you should be looking out for if you suspect that your husband wants a divorce.

2. Does my husband really want a divorce?

If he is showing you most or all of the 17 signs listed in this article, then sadly he likely wants a divorce.

3. My husband wants to leave me. What should I do?

Take the 5 steps listed in the last section of this article. If he no longer wants to stay in the marriage, let him walk away. Holding on to a marriage where you are the only one willing to make it work will only drain you and make you miserable. Not to mention how much of a negative impact it will have on your mental health and general self-esteem.

4. I think my husband wants to leave me. How do I know if my husband wants a separation?

Pay attention to his actions towards you and see if he displays the 17 signs listed in this article. And if he does, that’s all the answer you need. 

5. My husband suddenly wants a divorce. What should I do?

Don’t fight him on it. Try and have a conversation on whether he thinks divorce is the best solution or something less drastic like a separation. If he is hell-bent on a divorce then try to discuss the legal aspects of the divorce like custody of the children and the division of properties. 

It would be ideal to amicably part ways, especially if there are children involved. Once he’s made it clear that he wants a divorce, suggest an amicable and clean divorce where you both honestly come up with a beneficial divorce. You can achieve this by seeking professional help from lawyers once he makes it clear that he wants a divorce.

Conclusion.

When a husband is uninterested in making the marriage work and wants to take the easy way out by leaving the marriage, he will show the 17 signs listed in this article. If your marriage is on rocky grounds, look out for these signs. They will help you be mentally prepared in advance when he eventually says he wants to leave. But you don’t have to wait for that to happen. Once you spot the signs, you can take the 5 steps listed in this article and save yourself the heartache.