21 Ways How to Make Your Parents Love You Again.

You see this in how they freak out when anything harmful tries to affect you. If your parents are indifferent to the mishaps and not so pleasant occurrence(s) in your life, it is a devastating indication that they may not be as loving and caring about you as they should be.

2. They ask you how you’re doing.

Parents that love you would want to know how you’re doing. Whether it’s to call you up occasionally to see how you’re doing or to always check in with you when you get back from school. A loving parent or parents always asks after the wellbeing of their children.

3. Even when they yell at you, they try to do something to show you that they may be remorseful without necessarily coming out expressly to say they’re sorry.

Yes, our parents can be pretty proud sometimes to admit to us when they were wrong. Some parents have reached the level of enlightenment where they do this but a lot of parents still have a long way to go in coming out clearly to say they were wrong. And so, what they instead do is to try and make it up to you by being nice and all. While you may not be too impressed with it, know that it is one indication that they loved and cared about you. If they didn’t, they wouldn’t even bother or care that they may have hurt your feelings by their action(s).

You may like our related article on What to do when someone won’t apologize to find out how to deal with situations when you don’t get a deserved apology.

4. They are not dismissive when you try to talk to them about an issue that is close to your heart.

It can be heartbreaking trying to have a conversation with someone who appears very uninterested and makes you feel like you are wasting their time. It hurts even more when a loved one does this. But loving parents on the other hand, no matter how busy they may be, would listen. And if the time you chose is simply not a good time, rather than feign interest, they would be honest enough to tell you that it is not a good time and it is best to have the conversation on another day.

5. They make out time to sit down with you and have heart-to-heart conversations.

Loving parents know that family time is important to the continued mental health and wellbeing of everyone at home. And so they make time to hang out with their children. Whether it’s having heartfelt discussions at the dinner table, or having a game night where everyone plays and has fun, loving parents make conversations and constant communication with their children an important component of family life.

6. They know the things that matter to you and your likes and dislikes.

Your parents, especially your mom, would know whether you like nuts for instance, or are allergic to them. Not to say that your dad doesn’t love you because he may not pay particular attention to these details. Of course, he does. It’s just that it’s usually in the nature of things that moms, in particular, know this because women generally pay more attention to details than their male counterparts. And you can count on mom to let dad know what your likes and dislikes are.

7. They are dependable and there when you need them.

You know you can count on your parents any day and at any time. Whenever you need their help, they are not making excuses. If they can’t do it themselves, they will at least make arrangements for it to be done somehow.

8. They brag about you to all their friends for everything you do even if they may seem insignificant to you.

This isn’t to be confused with the narcissistic parent who only brags about their child when the child does something they want. And if the child doesn’t do what they want, they ignore the child. Not that parent. The loving parent is proud of you regardless of what you’ve achieved. Just knowing that you are awesome and great at whatever you choose to do makes them proud and happy, and they can’t wait to let all their friends know about it.

9. They tell you they love you.

And this is the crowning point of it all. Most parents are not afraid to tell their children that they love them. They affirm their love for their children every chance they get.

In more conservative cultures though, it may not be the norm. And if your parents fall in the category of parents who find it difficult to voice their love for you, it doesn’t mean they don’t love you. Look out for any of the other 8 signs and you will be in no doubt that they love you.

Every parent should read this related article on How to tell your child you love them unconditionally.

How to get your parents to love you again.

Maybe there was love before but something happened and you are starting to feel that your parents do not love you, here are some ways to get your parents to love you again.

10. Talk to them about how you feel.

Maybe your parents are not even aware that you feel they don’t love you anymore. It could be that they are going through a lot at the relevant time. The only way you or your parents would know is by having a candid discussion around the issue.

In having the conversation, try to make it more about yourself than an accusation of your parents. Remember that when you accuse anyone they are bound to become defensive and resort to defending themselves. Rather make it about how you feel so that your parents can see how much their (in)actions are affecting you.

11. Do something nice for them.

Sometimes, the best way to get love is by giving love. Showing your parents love by doing nice things for them too shows them you also care about them. This will in turn make them show you more love. In the next section, we will show you some nice things you can do for them.

12. Show them respect even if you think they are undeserving of it.

When it comes to your parents, even if you don’t think they are deserving of your respect, give it to them. Don’t talk back at them or yell at them or walk away from them when they are talking to you. Being disrespectful to your parents would only create more tension between you and your parents. Remember that you will be a parent tomorrow. Give your parents today the respect you will want as a parent tomorrow.

You will love this related article on What to do when people don’t respect you.

13. Do not however accept any abuse of any form.

If your parents are harming you in any way, it is important for your safety that you report the abuse and get help. This is especially important for those families where the parents are physically and verbally violent and abusive towards the children.

14. Ultimately, find love within yourself.

While it is unfortunate that your parents are not showing you love, this should not mean that you stop loving yourself. Remember that at the end of the day no one can love you more than you love yourself. If you don’t first love yourself, you will not be able to thrive in life as a person because you will constantly be seeking affirmation and love even in the wrong places. 

Tell yourself that you are a lovable person even if your parents may not love you. Be kind to yourself and show yourself, love. Affirm your awesomeness to yourself and take pride in the things you are great at.

Check out these helpful articles on How to make yourself feel better when sad and How to remain positive in difficult times.

15. Do not let their lack of love towards you define who you become.

If your parents still do not show you the love and care you should be getting, don’t let this slow you down or define you. This is important because studies like the one in the first chart above have shown that children who do not get love at home most often end up being sociopaths themselves. Do not let your parents determine the course of your life in this way. Actively work on bringing out the best in yourself and making yourself the best version of yourself.

How to be nice to your parents.

Being nice to your parents might be the final key to unlocking their love and care for you. Maybe they feel that you are unappreciative of what they do for you and as a result, they decide to be distant and somewhat cold.

Show them that they mean the world to you by being nice to them and showing them these acts of kindness.

16. Help out at home.

Share of Millennials who live at home with their parents in the United States in 2020, by age and gender. Source: Statista