3 Solid Tips on How to Ask Bridesmaids to Pay for Their Dresses

Smithra said  husbands pay for bridesmaid dresses, for that was how it was at her own wedding, her bridesmaids were his cousins from both sides of his lineage and few of her friends; she also gave me a list of best websites for bridesmaid dresses.

Ella and Patricia didn’t think it was wise to spend so much since Mike and I were on a budget and couldn’t even afford it even if we wanted to; Ella gave ideas of how her aunt got her friends to pay for their bridesmaid dresses, and they all did. Patricia advised that it was a better option as it would help cut costs and give me the fantasy wedding I had hoped for, but how do you tell the bridesmaids  to pay for their dresses?.

My three friends and I decided to put together a list on how to ask bridesmaids to pay for their dresses. We did a thorough research about others who had been in the same situation as me. Online we got a lot of responses from many women, and they shared ideas on how to get your bridesmaids to pay for their dresses you may also like this tips on how to ask someone to walk you down the aisle; these same tips are what I will be sharing with you in this article;

1. THROW OPEN THE QUESTION OF BRIDESMAIDS PAYING FOR THEIR DRESSES

First of all, you will need to call them together for a slight hang out or gathering or even meet, whatever you name it. You could also do this remotely using a remote communication app like WhatsApp, Telegram, Facebook, Discord, Teams, etc. You form groups consisting of just your bridesmaids.

This tactic involves letting the girls decide for themselves or giving room for suggestions. You should have a sample of the kinds of bridesmaid dresses you would want them to wear on that day. Show them several examples and designs of bridesmaid dresses, as well as the linked pricing for each gown, and then ask the question; this question can take many forms, but what counts is that it is constructed in such a manner that it is nice and elicits a positive or at least honest reaction from the bridesmaids. Here are some examples of possible questions to ask:

• “Do you girls think this bridesmaid dress would be too expensive for you?”

This question is pretty straightforward and clear; it lets them know that they are paying, and you are giving them a chance to decide if it’s within their budget. Their reply will help clear the air about who is buying the bridesmaid dress by throwing this question.

• “What kind of bridesmaid dress would you be buying for my wedding?”.

Throw this friendly question to your friends and hear what they have to say about their plans for the wedding. They could be aware that they are paying for the bridesmaid dresses. Who knows, they may even have decided on their own the exquisite bridesmaid dress they wanted and the best website to buy the bridesmaid dresses they had picked. Asking this question is like telling them to share their plans for the wedding with you.

• “What is your budget for the bridesmaid dress?”

Asking about their budget for the bridesmaid dress is a sure way to pass the message that bridesmaids buy their dresses. This question will prompt them to open up as to how much they can spare for the bridesmaid dress and, as such, make plans to purchase a dress that fits the budget.

2. LET A CLOSE FRIEND WHO WOULD ALSO BE PART OF THE BRIDESMAID DO THE TALKING

In this instance, you will need the help of one or two of the bridesmaids to help you inform the other bridesmaids to pay for their dresses. She could either go to them privately or discuss it in a group with them. She could also relate to them why you could not afford to buy the bridesmaid dresses at the time. Another way to do this is to allow a friend or two to take up the project entirely of picking out bridesmaids for your wedding; you can, of course, give them tips on the persons you may prefer as your bridesmaids. This individual will now be charged with informing the bridesmaids as well as picking out sample bridesmaid dresses and also letting the bridesmaids know they are paying for the dresses

3. GIVE THEM A LIST OF WHAT YOU CAN GIVE

It is not uncommon to see brides who give one or more treats to the bridesmaids. Manicure, pedicure, hair styling, makeup, giving jewelry, and so on are examples of such delights, this can help you to further decide on what you can buy for your bridesmaid. If you plan to provide any of this, you can easily list what you are offering them; indicate what you can offer and what you cannot offer. This will show them how much effort you have put in to ensure that they attend the wedding, and it will encourage them to do something for you as well. You can then have the bridesmaids pay for their dresses.

When Sonya was planning her wedding, the girls were encouraged to fully participate and support the wedding in any way they could; paying for the bridesmaid dress was the least they could do; they even suggested it themselves; all she had to do was show them her plan for a spectacular bridal shower; the location was stunning, as was the decoration, food, and drinks, all planned by Sonya’s family. The planned activities will give room for a lot of fun that the girls could not afford to miss. So it wasn’t a surprise when they all agreed to pay for the bridesmaid dresses even without Sonya asking.

In a bid to decide which bridesmaid dress was best for you, you may need to consider certain factors, which include;

• Cost; the cost of the dress is a factor to consider as it could help determine if the bridesmaids can afford it or not.
• Shape; the shape of the bridesmaids should be considered when deciding which bridesmaid dress to buy. For my twelve bridesmaids, it was hard to conclude which dress design would be best for all of them. I am glad they finally made that decision.
• Comfort; while some may decide that a strapless bridesmaid dress would fit more, others may want a short bridesmaid dress, while others may prefer a long bridesmaid dress. Whatever  decision is to be made, ensure all the bridesmaids are comfortable with it.
• Colors; the variety of available colors of bridesmaid dresses can be confusing when choosing a bridesmaid dress. To avoid this confusion, look out for colors that match your wedding theme and colors that fit your bridesmaids.

And that brings us to the question; Who picks the wedding dress?