Signs Your Separated Husband Wants You Back

Separation is never easy on either couple, especially when the separation is still relatively new and if the couple had been married for a long time before their separation. And usually, where couples opt for separation, as we have earlier said, it is mainly because they want to give things a final shot before heading for the extreme step of getting a divorce.

If you’re asking this question then chances are you probably also still love your husband and the separation is also taking its toll on you emotionally and otherwise. You want to be sure that he also feels the same way so that you know if you are to continue entertaining the hope that your marriage can come back to the way things were before.

Here are 13 positive signs during separation that tell you that your husband still loves you and is also hoping for reconciliation after your period of separation.

1. He Regularly Stays In Touch Through Calls.

This is not the usual text messaging to check up on the children and to see how things are going. If he prefers calling you at every turn then chances are he misses the sound of your voice and would take up any chance he gets to hear it.

Hearing your voice makes him excited even if you may sound clipped half the time during the conversation. He may be entertaining a faint hope that by maintaining contact through voice calls, he can start breaking down your defenses and establishing more rapport and familiarity.

The important question when it comes to using this sign as an indicator of his interest is to ask yourself who initiates the call. If he is the one always initiating the call then it is a sign he still loves you. If however you are the one always initiating the call, then the reverse is the case.

2. He Takes Particular Interest In Your Well-being.

This speaks to the contents of your conversations. Calling you is one thing, but what he says when he calls is another thing. If his only interest and concern is the children and not so much about you, then it’s clear he is not so much interested in your welfare and is only staying in touch with you because of the children.

If however your well-being is the focus of the conversation and he even appears concerned about your well-being and how you might be holding up, this is a positive sign of affection and that he still cares deeply for you.

3. He Is Always Willing To Help You Personally.

When he takes his concern for your welfare a step further by wanting to help you personally, even when he doesn’t have to, or need to, that’s another sure sign that he still loves you and cares deeply for you. He still wants to be your hero.

4. He Usually Comes Around To Places You Frequent.

One or two meetings may be put to chance or coincidence, but where he is more frequently in places that you are, then there is no coincidence to it. Given that you were both married he would know the places you frequent and like to be at. And so, he knows that if he comes around those places at the times he knows you like to be there, he will find you. And he knows that when you bump into each other, you will obviously get talking and the likes, and this is what he is counting on because he still has feelings of love and affection for you.

5. He Always Finds An Excuse For The Both Of You To Meet Up.

If he’s always asking for meetings for any and every excuse under the sun, even for things that can easily be resolved over a phone call, then you can be sure he’s looking for an excuse to be around you. And he wants to be around you because he enjoys your company and wants to always be around it.

This should not be confused with the normal and expected meetings where you need to meet up for reasons that need to be ironed out in a meeting. These types of meetings are usually for the smallest things that don’t need any meet up between both of you.

6. He Seeks Your Advice And Opinions On Even The Smallest Things.

Men only seek the opinions of people they value. If he’s asking for your advice and opinions even when you’re separated, it is a very good and positive indicator that he still values your opinions and wants to hear them. Discussing them with you gives him the feeling that you are both still a team and he doesn’t want to stop feeling that way.

7. Whenever You Meet Up He Finds Ways To Make Your Meetings Longer.

He enjoys your presence so much he does not want your meetings to come to an end. Just when you thought the meeting was coming to an end, he finds something else for you guys to talk about so you don’t have to leave.

He is hopeful that the longer time you spend together, the easier it will be to start rekindling your connection.

8. He Finds Excuses To Touch You Even If So Lightly.

He’s trying to see how you react to this and whether there is still some chemistry or attraction between both of you. If he’s always looking for an excuse to initiate some form of physical contact either through touch, hug, or kiss on the cheek, he wants to create a closer rapport between you that he is hopeful will start a spark that will blossom into something more.

9. He Is A Little Nervous Or Unsure Around You.

Because he does not know how you feel about him, sometimes he may come off as nervous or unsure when he’s around you. This sign is not peculiar to all guys though. It happens with some guys and maybe your husband falls in this category.

10. He Brings Up Memories Of Good Times In Conversations.

Whenever he makes fleeting references to the good memories you both have in conversations, or if he makes it a point to tell you how something that happened to him during the day or week reminded him of some good memories between you both, it is an indicator that he misses the good times. He is talking about them to remind you of how good things were between both of you, and hopefully get you to start thinking about them too, and missing them as much as he misses them.

11. He Finds Opportunities To Tell You About The Positive Things He’s Doing.

This is his way of trying to tell you that he is working on himself and trying to be a better man. When he does this, he is trying to impress you, in hopes that you can start softening your stance towards him.

A man will do this, especially where he is the reason for the separation. By telling you the changes he’s making, he is trying to show you that he’s working on himself and trying to be a better man for you and the marriage. He is hoping that by telling you these steps, you can begin to soften towards him and see that he is making an effort.

12. He Finds Excuses To Buy You Things However Small.

Usually, when he comes around, he comes with something to say hello. Or maybe, when he takes the kids out to buy something, he comes back with something for you too. When he buys you these things he is trying to tell you that he is still thinking about you.

13. He May Flirt Casually By Complimenting You Every Chance He Gets.

Even for the smallest things, he will always find a compliment to give for it to show you he still fancies you and thinks highly of you. Compliments are his way of trying to sweeten you up and hopefully keep the sparks between you alive.

14. He Asks About You From Close Friends.

He does this sometimes if he doesn’t want to ask you directly because he is not sure how you will respond or take it. When your close friends start to let you know that he’s asking about you from them, this is another sign that he’s not over you yet and wants to keep tabs on how you’re doing.

Of course, you’ll prefer that he asks you directly, but when couples are separated, it’s never easy knowing how to keep communicating without being misunderstood.

15. He Has Made His Feelings Known To Your Mutual Friends About How He Feels About You And Moving On.

He hopes that by doing this, these mutual friends will come and tell you what he’s said. He may not necessarily ask them to tell you how he feels but he knows that when he tells them, chances are that the information will somehow find its way to you.

In some cases, he may even request that they ask you indirectly about how you feel about reconciliation, to give him an idea of where you stand.

Will My Husband Come Back To Me After Separation?

The answer to this question depends on the reason why he left in the first place, or why you both decided on separation in the first place. Married couples separate for several reasons, some of which include constant bickering and fighting, and infidelity. According to a 2018 survey by How To Save Marriage, 73% of the reason for separation is a lack of commitment from one or both parties to the marriage.