How to tell someone no more gifts

Telling someone by spreading the word through others

If you do not feel comfortable talking to all your friends and family members. But want to let them all know not to bring gifts to your special occasion. You can get together with one close friend or family member explain to them your wishes and the reasons why. They can then go and spread the word to everyone else on your behalf.

This way is a bit of a risk because the friend or family member could miss a couple of people out or forget to tell them. They will then arrive at your occasion with a gift and then feel a little uncomfortable because they did not know about your wishes.

Invitations

Invitations are mainly used to invite guests to a birthday celebration, an engagement, a wedding and even an anniversary. Invitations are a way of informing your guests with important information like the date of the occasion, the time and place it will be held at. But it can also be used to give a specific instruction like a request for No More Gifts.

There are many different ways to write no more gifts on an invitation. Here are some examples:

• No more gifts, Please
• Please no gifts
• Please do not bring a gift
• Gifts are not necessary
• No gifts please, only your presence is required
• No gifts allowed, only you
• Your presence is all we need
• Your presence is the best gift you could give us
• There is nothing that he/she needs, only your company
• After 30 years together, there’s nothing that we need, only for you to join our celebration.

These requests are usually placed at the bottom of the invitation in the lower left or right corner of the invitation. It should also be in a small font and should be short and to the point so that it does not distract from the main purpose of the invitation.

But if you have something more to say, you can add a separate insert with the invitation with your message or even a nice poem or no Christmas gifts poem with a Christmas card.

An Idea could be something like:

Christmas is not only all about the gifts 

that we give and receive.

It is also about the time that we have been given 

to spend with each other.

It is the gift with real value that keeps on giving

Telling someone in person or on the phone

Telling someone in person or on the phone that you do not want any more gifts can be difficult. But it is usually the best option as it gives you the opportunity to explain in detail. 

Before you begin with your conversation, you need to be relaxed and calm or else you risk your words coming out all wrong. Your guests will not understand and could misinterpret your message.

So start your conversation off in a casual and fun way. Thank them and tell them how much you appreciated all the gifts that they have given in the past. You can mention a specific gift that each of them has given you and how much you loved it.

Then if you clearly explain to them your reasons for not wanting any more gifts, they should understand and most will honor your wishes.

When telling people you should also be totally honest about the reasons why you don’t want any more gifts. Although it isn’t always easy to do, you do need to try and explain as best as you can in a simple enough way. 

It will help if you give them a full explanation with an example. You can say something like “We have been discussing as a family about simplifying our lives to turn our focus to enjoying more family time together, having fun and eating good food. We have decided that the best way to do this is to cut down on the clutter around us. So you would be doing us a favor by not buying us any gifts.”

Have an alternative in mind

Not everybody will get on board with your request for no more gifts. There will still be people that will want to give you something because to them not giving gifts does not feel right. So be prepared for when they ask you for alternative Christmas ideas for families, your birthday or for your anniversary. These do not have to be physical gifts they could be an experience, a gift card and even a donation to your favorite charity.

For an idea to make things more interesting for the guests that do want to give you something for your special occasion. You can make a card that you can hand out to them beforehand either in person or with your invitations. On these cards, you can give the name of the type of gift card you would like or the name of the charity that you would like them to support on your behalf.

This all leads to some other questions:

What do you say to someone that honors your wishes? And what do you say to someone that doesn’t?

When someone honors your wishes by not bringing a gift for you

Say thank you to them for listening to you or for reading the invitation that you sent out. A nice idea would be to give each person a thank you card for taking the time to spend celebrating the occasion with you. If it is Christmas that you are celebrating, you can thank them for their friendship and all the support that they have given you during the past year.

What to do and say when someone gives you a gift

It is best to keep calm and not to make an issue out of receiving the gift. Thank them politely for the gift personally and tell them that you are happy that they came, go place the gift away from the eyes of your other guests.

If they ask you why you are not opening the gift, you can tell them that you will open it later because you don’t want the others to feel bad for not bringing one.

After your celebration and once you have opened the gift, be sure to either give the person a phone call or send them a card. In your card, you should thank them for the specific item that they have given you.

Figuring out how to tell someone no more gifts can be simple. Look at the type of celebration you are having and decide on the best way to tell your guests. Choose between sending out invitations, having a conversation with them either face to face or by phone or asking someone close to you to spread the word on your behalf.