11 Signs He Is Uncomfortable Around You

A research seen on Pew Research (and shown in the chart above) suggests that teen girls are a lot quicker to block or unfriend a guy online who made them uncomfortable in the way he flirted with them.

But usually, guys don’t just act in an awkward or weird way around people, or in this case a lady. And you’re probably asking, “if a guy is awkward around you, what does it mean?” There could be several reasons why he is uncomfortable around you. In this article we will be exploring what makes a man uncomfortable around a woman and what the signs he is uncomfortable around you are.

Why is he awkward around me? What makes a man uncomfortable around a woman.

When a guy acts weird around you or is awkward around you, it could be because of one or more of the following 4 reasons:

1. He has a huge crush on you.

This is usually the number 1 reason why he is so nervous around you. A guy generally tends to be nervous and uncomfortable around the object of his affection and attraction, especially when he hasn’t professed his feelings for you. His awkwardness and nervousness in these circumstances comes from not knowing what to do or how to handle himself around you.

Find out more about what guys do when they have a crush on someone in our articles on What do guys do when they have a crush on someone and How do you know if a guy likes you secretly.

2. He doesn’t like you as a person and probably can’t stand you for too long.

This is the other somewhat dangerous side of a guy who acts a little more awkward around you. It is not the more common reason why a guy could be uncomfortable around you but it is a reason nonetheless.

Where this is the reason why he is uncomfortable around you, there is usually an edginess and tension in the atmosphere that you can almost feel. It almost feels like there is an unspoken hostility towards you in his uncomfortable body language.

This is in contrast to the guy who is nervous around you because he likes you. The guy who is nervous because he likes you still has a pleasantness about him.

You may find this article on 13 Signs someone wants to destroy you insightful.

3. He has likely done something wrong to you without your knowledge and being around you makes him feel stabs of guilt.

This is another not-so-common or not too obvious reason why a guy would act awkward around you. A guilty conscience is even more difficult to deal with when you find yourself in the same space as the person you have wronged. And so, it could be that he has bad-mouthed you to someone or done something wrong against you behind your back. And being around you makes him extremely uncomfortable either because it makes him have a guilty conscience or he is worried that you might figure out what he’s done wrong.

4. He finds you intimidating.

A woman especially with a strong personality can sometimes intimidate some guys. And usually, because guys are generally used to being in charge and in control of every situation, being in a position where they feel intimidated makes them feel uncomfortable.

Where this is the reason why the guy is uncomfortable around you, you can tell by how very little he says and where he eventually speaks, it feels as though he is trying to assert his authority or feel a sense of being in charge. It is because it is his way of trying to feel less uncomfortable and less intimidated.

11 Signs he is uncomfortable around you.

Uncomfortable people always show signs of discomfort despite their best efforts at hiding it, and a guy that is uncomfortable around you is no different. And of course, why he is uncomfortable around you is worth thinking about too, and we’ve covered these in the first section. Depending on why he is acting awkward around you, these are the top 11 signs he is uncomfortable around you.

1. He is looking everywhere and not looking at you.

You could find his eyes darting furtively everywhere else but at you. He finds it difficult to maintain eye contact and even when he does his gaze is so shifty it leaves you puzzled. He has that uncomfortable look in his eyes when he eventually makes eye contact. And to make matters worse, he could be talking to you and refusing to maintain eye contact while talking. When you see this, do not doubt in your mind that he is very uncomfortable around you.

2. He appears to be distracted and isn’t really listening to you.

You can tell that he isn’t really engaged or engaging in the discussion even if he may nod and make the appropriate sounds to indicate that he is listening. Yet when you ask what you were talking about, he would not be able to tell you. Distraction is one of the common signs of discomfort.

3. His body language suggests that he can’t wait to get away from the conversation.

This one isn’t so hard to tell. You can tell by how hurriedly he speaks or how quickly he wants to get up and leave.

4. He is on his phone the whole time while you’re talking to him.

This is one sign that can be or appear rude and annoying. And yes it is rude to be using one’s phone while someone is trying to have a conversation with you. For some guys, they are just plain rude and see no problem in using their phone while talking to you. However, for some other guys, their phone is the only distraction they can use to hide their discomfort.

5. You find yourself repeating answers you’ve given before.

If you find that you have to answer the same question more than twice or thrice, then you can be sure that he is uncomfortable around you.