19 Signs She Is Testing Your Patience

The majority of men (as seen in the above survey from YouGov) still believe that the man should pay the bill, on the first date at least. And for good reason. And you can be certain that the girl who is testing you with this sign most likely falls in the category of the 29% who hold the view that the man should pay the bill on a first date.

This is one trap you should not fall for. If she offers to pay the bill, she is only testing you to see if you will insist on paying or not. By insisting on paying and being able to pay, you show her that you can take care of her and will not shy away from doing so.

A guy who falls for this trap tells her that he is either a cheapskate who will not be able to take care of her or that he is stingy. Whichever one she decides you are, it is not good for you because she will shut the door on you after you fail the test.

If you want to scale through this trap, it might be a good idea that you get to choose the location for your date. That way you can choose a locale that is within your budget.

13. She cancels or postpones hanging out with you.

And she may wait until the very last minute to do this. She is doing two things when she acts in this way. Number one, she is trying to see how you will react to her last-minute cancellation and whether you will lose your cool. Losing your cool will tell her that you are a short-tempered person. The second thing she is trying to achieve is to gauge your interest and to see if you will follow up by asking to see her again. If you do not follow up then it tells her that you were not that interested in the first place.

The caveat to this though is that if she cancels more than 3 times, then it is no longer a test. She’s simply not interested and it will be best for you to move on from her.

14. She says very little about herself unless you ask her specifically.

She will do this if she’s starting to doubt that you have any genuine interest in her. She will also do this if she gets the sense that you are self-absorbed and a “me, me, me” type of person. No girl wants to be with a self-absorbed guy. And so when she is with you she will consciously choose not to say much about herself, and instead waits for you to ask her questions about herself.

Asking her about herself tells her that you are genuinely interested in knowing more about her. If however you just carry on talking about yourself the whole time with no thought spared to getting to know her, we can guarantee you that after that meeting, you will likely not hear from her again.

15. Or she could talk a lot about herself and the things she likes.

When the girl likes you initially and before she switches to the mode explained in number 14, you will notice that she is so free with telling you about seemingly trivial details about herself such as her favorite color, food, and the likes. She is hoping that you are listening and taking notes in case things get serious between the both of you.

16. She holds out on sexual intimacy for a little while.

She wants to be sure that your interest in her is not just to have sex with her and then leave. Unless she is looking for a purely sexual relationship, when a lady wants to be in a serious committed relationship with a guy, this is her final test. She will hold out for as long as she feels until she is confident that you like her for her, and not just for sex.

How to tell if a girl is testing you through text – 3 signs she’s testing you through text.

Text messages are another avenue through which girls test guys. Wondering if she is testing you through this avenue? Look out for these 3 signs.

17. She will rarely text you first.

This is part of her strategy to test the level of your interest in her. She wants to see that she is not the one pushing the agenda for the communication between you both.

18. She delays her responses to your text messages.

She doesn’t want you thinking that she is sitting ideally by her phone and just waiting for you to text her. She will feign disinterest by taking some time before she responds to your messages.

19. Her responses are short but not closed-ended.

She will likely make no effort to respond more than what you’ve asked. She wants to see that you are interested in talking with her and that you can hold a conversation with her for a long time without any help from her. She will not close off her responses even though they may be short, but she will certainly not give you an answer beyond the question(s) you’ve asked her. 

And so, if you really like her, it is your chance to show her that you are an interesting guy and that there is more to you. Find engaging topics to engage her in a conversation and be prepared to hold the conversation without help from her.

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Frequently asked questions.

1. Is she testing me or not interested?

If a lady is testing you, then she is definitely interested in you. And how you know if she is testing you is if you see her show you most or all of the 19 signs listed in this article. If she shows you one or two of these signs, then she is likely not testing you and not interested.

2. Is she testing me by not texting back?

If she never responded to your text message, then she is not testing you. She is simply not interested. A lady who is interested in you and testing you by text will always respond to your text even if she delays her response.

3. Would a girl lie about having a boyfriend to “test” you?

Yes, some girls can test a guy in this way although it is not exactly very common. The girls who do this want to see if you will persist in chasing them or back away. However, given that most guys will back away when a girl says she has a boyfriend, most girls will not use this as a way to test a guy because they know he could potentially walk away and they don’t want that.

4. Is she testing me by ignoring me?

If she is completely ignoring you, then she is not testing you. She is simply not interested in you and you should not waste your time trying to pursue her because she will only continue to rebuff you.

Conclusion.

A lady only tests a man that she deeply likes and is interested in having a serious relationship with. And so, when you see most or all of the 19 signs she is testing you listed in this article, be in no doubt about the fact that she has the hots for you. It is then for you to decide if you also want to pursue her. And if you want to pursue her, then you now have the intel on her secret weapon. This intel is to help you pass all her tests and show her that you are the love that she has been waiting for.