21 Signs You’re Forcing Yourself to Love Someone

There are many signs to look for when someone is being forced into a relationship; these signs can also be signs you’re forcing yourself to love someone. They include;

1. YOU ARE NOT EXCITED ABOUT HIM

How could you not be? Seeing your boyfriend should excite you and make you feel so happy, or like butterflies in your tummy, except, of course, you are just forcing yourself into the relationship.

2. YOU HATE BEING AROUND HIM

You want to leave every time you two are together. You feel better staying away from him than with him; this is only a sign you’re forcing yourself to love someone. Are you supposed to hate being with someone you are dating?

3. YOU TRY TO AVOID THEM AT ALL COST

When he calls, you find one excuse or the other why you shouldn’t meet up. This makes you feel better than going on a date with him; being forced into a relationship you do not want to be in the first place makes you want to avoid the very person you should be spending time with

4. YOU FEEL FRUSTRATED

Forcing love in a relationship can be frustrating. Everything about the person irritates and annoys you; his calls, texts, presence, laughter, even the very thought of them. How to stop forcing yourself on someone is to find a way to end that relationship; that’s if there was any relationship in the first place. You don’t want to be frustrated for the rest of your life.

5. YOU ARE NOT PROUD OF HIM

This isn’t good, but it is a core sign you’re forcing yourself to love someone. You feel ashamed walking side by side with them on the street; you avoid introducing them as your date, you want to keep your relationship secret, etc. can you make yourself love someone you are not proud of?

6. YOU DON’T EVEN REMEMBER THEM

Imagine going through the whole day without a call or text to someone you claim to be in a relationship with; no matter how busy you may be, you will always make time for someone you love, not someone you are forcing yourself to love. If you love them, they will be in your thoughts all day; you don’t forget them, except you are forcing yourself to like them.

7. YOU STILL LOOK OUT FOR ANOTHER PARTNER

Your heart still feels single; your social media status still says single or complicated, all because deep down, you are still on the lookout for someone else whom you will truly love and care for. Forcing love in a relationship is stupid and a waste of time.

8. YOUR HEART IS WITH SOMEONE ELSE

You are in the company of your boyfriend, but your heart is with your ex; what does that mean? You’re forcing yourself to like someone, and this someone is your recent boyfriend. When he touches you, you wish it was your ex’s touch; when he speaks, you hear your ex’s voice; you compare all his actions with that of your ex and wish he would be more like him.

9. YOU FEEL UNHAPPY IN THE RELATIONSHIP

Forcing yourself to love someone can make you sad; relationships are meant to be enjoyed. An average person should be happier once in a relationship with someone they love. Being forced into a relationship can lead to sadness and an unhappy ending.

10. DEEP DOWN YOU KNOW THEY ARE NOT THE ONE

Would you say yes if he proposes today and asks you to marry him? Or would you give one reason or the other to stall? Think about it; deep down, you know he is not the one; why then are you forcing yourself to be with him?

11. YOU WANT TO END IT

You have been looking for a way to end the relationship, sometimes not because he has done anything wrong. Or maybe the reason you are still with him is that you can’t find a reason to end it? This is a sign you’re forcing yourself to love someone. You have to stay put in the relationship, not because you love him but because you can’t find a reason to leave.

12. YOU NEVER APOLOGIZE EVEN WHEN YOU ARE WRONG

Disagreements occur in relationships; any one of the couples could be the reason for the disagreements, but when the apology always comes from one person, this is a sign the other person may not truly be in love, but maybe forcing himself to love.

13. YOU DO NOT PLAN FOR THE RELATIONSHIP

A relationship involves a lot of planning from both parties. When do you not make any plans in your relationship? Where is the relationship going? Maybe the planning is coming from the other person and not you because you’re forcing yourself to love someone you don’t care enough to love.

14. YOU NEVER GIVE ROOM FOR INTIMACY

Being forced into a relationship makes you lose interest in being intimate with the person. Since you feel compelled or irritated around you, you would prefer not to move the relationship up by being close with them. You already have all your excuses ready; they may look genuine, yet in the long run, it’s all because you’re forcing yourself to love someone you don’t even like.

15. YOU NEVER SAY I LOVE YOU

If you love your partner, you wouldn’t be hesitant to tell them you love them, except you are not really into them or forcing yourself to love them. Forcing love in a relationship can easily be detected in the things your partner says or how they say it. The chart below explains a survey on how many times couples said “I love you” in a relationship. You can read more about the survey here