15 Ways Husbands Destroy Their Marriage

This is a terrible and illogical stance to take because marriage is merely the first step. As we said, marriage is a partnership and much like a business partnership, the announcement of the partnership is only the first step in creating a successful and lasting business venture.

Work needs to be put in by both husband and wife to ensure that the partnership grows and blossoms and leads to the fulfillment of both spouses because marriage is meant to be a permanent partnership that empowers both spouses to be the best that they can.

Husbands therefore should do what needs to be done when they get married. They should not behave as though they do not need to put in the effort because the truth is, marriage is not as hard to get out of as 50 or so years ago.

If a wife feels as though her husband is not putting in enough effort, she is allowed to leave and leave she will because that is what happens when a partner is not working hard enough to secure the partnership (marriage).

It is therefore important to spot the ways husbands destroy their marriage so that corrective action can be taken to save the marriage. To help you with that, we have compiled some of the things husbands do to destroy marriage so that you can act on them if you find yourself or your husband failing in any of them.

Check out our related article on the characteristics of a selfish husband.

1. Not giving wife enough attention

One of the most common things that husbands do to destroy their marriage is not giving their wives enough attention which is why we hear many wives saying, “my husband never has time for me” or “my husband doesn’t spend time with me”.

These same husbands who don’t spend time with their wives would still be found jumping at any instance their friends or family call on them yet find it difficult to extend the same courtesy to their wives.

This can slowly kill a marriage because a woman who feels ignored by her husband might feel isolated and unimportant to the point where she begins to lose her self-esteem until she decides that enough is enough and decides to seek greener pastures.

Make time for your wife so that she can enjoy her husband and be able to stand tall when other women complain that their husbands are never home or that their husbands never want to do family things.

Here are some activities for spouses at home.

2. Not paying attention to wife’s insecurities

We all have things that we are insecure about and in a marriage, it is the responsibility of one’s spouse to make them feel better about these insecurities.

There, however, seem to be a large number of husbands who ignore their wives and their insecurities especially in regards to other women. For instance, when a wife is insecure about her looks, common sense dictates that her husband should avoid stealing glances at other women who might be “prettier” than his wife so that she doesn’t feel inadequate but some husbands simply do not get this.

Other husbands might even know their wife’s insecurities but decide not to take it seriously and even pass it off as jokes and this can be particularly hurtful to their wives.

3. Not opening up or communicating enough

Another way that husbands ignore their wives is by not opening up about what they are going through.

This is especially true when they are going through a stressful period because there is a general tendency for men to keep things bottled up until they fix whatever issue is affecting them.

This is not fair on wives because spouses are meant to share their burdens and when the husband doesn’t do so, the wife might feel as though her husband doesn’t value her enough to share things with her.

There is also the chance that the husband would snap at the wife more because of the stress they are keeping inside which can be very confusing to the wife as she would be at a loss for what she did that could be drawing such negative emotions to her from her husband.

Here are other reasons your husband loses his temper over little things.

4. Forgetting the little things

A lot of men forget the little things they used to do for their wives before they got married or early on in the marriage that showed they cared about them and this is one of the main ways they destroy their marriage.

They forget that it is the little things that matter the most because these show that their wives are constantly in their thoughts as opposed to those grand gestures that happen occasionally when the husband remembers that he has a wife.

It is therefore important that these little things are still done such as texting your wife that you miss her, calling to ask how her day is going, buying her a single rose (or her favorite flower), buying her chocolate, or even going out on a date every now and then.

5. Refusing to apologize and admit wrong

There are few things that turn a woman off like a man who does not know how to apologize when he has done wrong or even admit his wrong in the first place.

This pride is one of the ways husbands destroy their marriage because it can lead to resentment on the part of the wife as she will find it hard to forgive her husband when he wrongs her.

Husbands should therefore own up when they are in the wrong so that there will be peace in their marriage.

6. Being too much of a “fixer”

Sometimes a husband constantly trying to fix problems can be what destroys a marriage as well.

As a man, it is in your nature to fix things especially when it comes to your wife. It is worthy of note, however, that sometimes your wife might just want to vent to you about a problem till she feels better about it.

You do not always have to offer a solution or at least if you must, let it be after you have heard her pour her heart out to you. You can even vent with her for good measure to show solidarity.

As weird as this sounds, surveys show that some women have complained about feeling ignored by their husbands because their husbands did not listen to what they were saying to understand what they were feeling but rather to come up with ways to fix the issue.

7. Taking wife’s sexual satisfaction for granted

A husband neglects his wife when he begins to take his sex life with her for granted and experts say that this is quite prevalent in a lot of marriages. A reason suggested for why this could be the case was that husbands feel that they have easy access to sex and so don’t work hard to keep getting it which is why too many marriage counselors have heard women tell them, “my husband ignores my needs”.

This is the wrong attitude to have because research from Pew Research Center shows that a satisfying sexual life is key to a successful marriage.