35 Signs of a Good Husband and Father.

This is not to say that he would never get tempted. Of course, he would get tempted because he is a human being. But what sets him apart from the cheating husband who is a jerk is that he can control himself and stay faithful to his wife because of the love he has for her and his commitment to their marriage.

12. He does not disagree with you in public and presents a united front outside.

An amazing husband knows better than to have a heated argument in public with his wife. He understands the importance of always presenting a united front when in public because he does not want to embarrass and humiliate his wife. Whatever disagreement he may have with what the wife is doing in public, he waits until they are in the privacy of their home to thrash it out.

13. He defends you in public.

Your husband is a great husband if he is always ready to take up arms in your defense in public. Everyone knows that they dare not say anything against you or they will have him to deal with. You have no shadow of doubt in your mind that come what may, your husband is always your number 1 defender in public.

14. He includes you in the decision-making process at home.

You don’t feel left out of important family decisions. You feel very much like a part of building your home because your husband makes it a point to seek your input before making any decision. Even if he may not always adopt your views, he will always ask for your counsel and listen to what you have to say.

What makes a great father? 6 Signs of a good father.

For you to say “my husband is the best dad”, he has to have shown these 6 signs of a good father.

15. He is there for the children.

Your children don’t feel neglected by their dad because he is always there for them when they need him. He attends their baseball practices and any other functions at school and they know they can count on him whenever they need him.

16. He spends time with his children and wants to understand each one of them.

Yes, he may be busy with work and the likes, but that does not stand in the way of his making an effort to spend equal time with all his children. And not only does he spend time with them, but he is also striving to get to know and understand them better. And where he does not understand how to deal with any of the children, he asks for your views because he knows that you would know better as their mom.

17. He teaches his sons how to grow up to be men of caliber and timber.

A great father knows that he has a lot of work to do in ensuring that his sons grow up to be honorable and quality men in society. He teaches his sons how to be a good man and treat everyone around him right, especially women. He plays this active role by watching his sons and how they interact and relate with their sisters and his wife, their mother. And he is quick to correct and discipline them to ensure that they grow up to be men of caliber.

18. He treats his daughters like princesses so that they have enough love at home and don’t need to look outside for it.

A great father also knows that he should treat his daughter like a princess so that she does not settle for a man that would treat her less than the princess that she is. He takes her out on daddy-daughter dates and always affirms her worth and beauty to her.

Some studies have shown that women who end up with abusive partners lacked a good father figure in their lives when growing up. As a result, they tend to subconsciously look for their absent fathers in the men they end up with and the void created by this need causes some of them to stay on in the relationship even when it is unhealthy for them. And thus, the great father looks after his daughter to ensure that this does not happen.

19. He models what a good husband is to his children in the way he treats his wife.

His children already have the prototype of what a great husband looks like just by observing their awesome dad. And because they know what a great husband looks like, his sons will model the same thing and strive to be better and his daughters will know not to settle for less when it comes to a loving husband.

20. He treats all his children equally and with love and respect.

He does not pit his children against each other and he does not make a show of having a favorite among his children. All his children feel equally loved and cherished because that is how he is towards them.

4 Roles/Responsibilities of a husband and father.

A wonderful husband and father will not take these 4 responsibilities/functions lightly.

21. To be there for his family at all times.

A responsible father and husband is not an absent father or husband. When he is needed by both his wife or his children, he is always there. He can be counted upon and dependable when needed.

22. To be financially responsible and provide for his family.

He is a provider and takes financially beneficial decisions that would help the family. He would not for example take risky investment decisions where the family has only one stream of income and he would ensure that his wife is a crucial part of any financial decisions he makes.

23. To protect his family.

A great father and husband know that this is one of his sole responsibility. His wife and children should feel a sense of security with him around and he should do all that is within his power to engender this sense of security.

24. To show unconditional love and care to his family.

A great father and husband take good care of his wife and children. They are not in doubt about how much he loves the family and every one of them.

How to become a better husband and father – 11 Helpful steps.

If you are a husband and feel that you are lacking in any of the attributes and responsibilities listed above, it is never too late to change for the better. It is also not too difficult to change. All it requires is to take positive action in the direction of the 24 attributes listed above. To help you take those steps, doing these 11 things will help you become a better husband and father that has the 24 characteristics listed above.

25. Always affirm your love for your wife and children.

Always tell your children you love them unconditionally. The same goes for your wife too. And more than telling them, also show them every day through your actions that you love them very much.

Read this article on 19 Signs your husband loves you deeply for ways to show deep love to your wife.

26. Don’t shy away from resolving conflicts in the family when they arise.

This is another sure way of working towards becoming a great husband and father. When issues arise at home, don’t shut down or sweep them under the rug hoping they will go away. This will only heighten the tension in the home and make it an uncomfortable and unbearable environment to be in.

27. Don’t take sides when your children fight but objectively and dispassionately resolve the conflicts that they may have.

Hear them out and try as much as possible to be an unbiased umpire. If you pick sides you would make some of your children feel that you don’t love them as much as their sibling whose side you picked. To avoid picking sides, you can ask them both to not go anywhere and stay put until they resolve their differences.

28. Don’t have favorites among your children.

This is one mistake that parents, including fathers, make. And this only serves to bring acrimony and unnecessary tension in the home. Do not have favorites and even if you do, let it not be so obvious to your children that you have a favorite. All your children must feel equally loved by you.

29. Do not fight with your wife in front of the kids.

A loving and respectful husband knows that this is one rule that must never be broken. It is wrong and disrespectful of both your wife and the kids to fight with your wife in the presence of the kids. This will also make your children resent you. Regardless of how you may feel about what you think your wife did wrong, wait until you are in the privacy of your room and then talk about it.

30. Affirm and compliment your wife in front of your children.

This is important in showing the children that there is mutual love and respect between you and their mother. It also provides a good example for them to emulate.

31. Help out your wife as much as you possibly can.

As much as possible, assist your wife at home. Being a mom can be daunting especially if you have more than one child and the kids are all still very young.

32. Have date nights regularly with your wife.

This helps to keep the flames of love and passion burning ever so brightly. If you want to be a great husband to your wife, then you know that love and romance must never be missing from the equation of your marriage. Whether it’s a regular lunch or dinner date, or a romantic picnic in a park, always find creative and fun ways to have regular dates with your wife. Our articles on Ideas for a romantic night in a hotel and Romantic evening ideas for married couples can help you with some ideas.

33. Keep things hot and steamy in the bedroom with your wife.

Sex is as important in your marriage as it was when you were dating her. Never let the fire fizzle out in the bedroom. Keep things exciting and steamy and be open to trying out new ideas with your wife in the bedroom. She will find your sense of adventure refreshing and thrilling.

34. Take your daughter(s) out on dates.

This is a great way of showing your daughter that she is loved and valued. Taking your daughter out on dates would also help in not making her fall prey to just about any man because he took her out on a date. She would know that going on dates is no big deal because her daddy spoils her on dates often and dates are no reason to give in to a man even when he is a jerk.

35. Spend quality time with your sons doing the things they love doing.

This is also important. It shows your son that you love him and are interested in his life. If he loves playing baseball or basketball, you can learn to play too or ensure that you attend as many of his basketball games and practices as possible.

Frequently asked questions.

1. Is being a righteous husband and father a good thing?

Yes, it is a wonderful thing to be a righteous husband and father because it means you will always run your family in the way of righteousness and do what is right.

2. Will he be a good dad?

If he is showing the 35 characteristics listed in this article, then yes, he will be a good dad. But if his actions are the opposite of the characteristics in this article, then he will not be a good dad.

3. Who is a good father?

A good father is a dad who displays all the characteristics and signs of a good father listed in this article.

4. How do I know if I have a narcissistic husband and father?

Narcissistic husbands and fathers tend to be very self-centered. They only see their children as extensions of themselves rather than the independent persons they are. Everything is about him and he does not care about his wife and children. He only cares about them if it serves his selfish interest. In short, the narcissistic husband and father are the polar opposite of the qualities of the great husband and father listed in this article.

5. What is the role of a husband and father?

Every father and husband should play the 4 critical roles listed in this article. Check them out once again and be sure that he is playing these roles.

6. How do you know if you are a great dad?

You are a good and amazing father if you display the 35 characteristics listed in this article.

7. What makes a great father?

Being a great father comes with practice and intentionality in your actions towards your wife and children. And if you can inculcate the 35 attributes listed in this article, then you are well on your way to being a great father.

Conclusion.

A great husband and father will leave no doubt about his awesomeness. His wife and children can tell that he is a great husband and father because he will consistently display the 35 characteristics listed in this article. And even if as a husband and father you are lacking in one or more of these characteristics, you can start today to work on making them a part of who you are as a husband and father.