What Not to Do in a Relationship With Your Boyfriend

1. CHEAT

This is a very obvious thing that you should never do to your boyfriend. If you agree that you are in a monogamous relationship, then it is best to avoid any other men or women you might be emotionally or sexually linked or attracted to.

2. LIE

Lying to your partner is another thing you should not do to your boyfriend. Lying breeds insecurities and insecurities ruin relationships. Make sure you tell your boyfriend the truth all the time no matter how uncomfortable. However, you should also set healthy boundaries on what you can say and what not to say to your boyfriend.

3. INVADE PRIVACY

Do not under any circumstances invade your boyfriend’s privacy. That means no snooping around his house when he is not there, not looking through his phone when he is asleep, and no digging up dirt about him from his friends or previous lovers. What this will do when he finds out – which he will, eventually – is it will tell him that he cannot trust you and you cannot build a relationship without trust. If you have any questions about him, it is best to ask him directly and let him tell you what you need to know.

4. SAY HURTFUL WORDS

Relationships are bound to have ups and downs. When you are in an argument with your boyfriend, always remember to not say anything that you cannot take back. Don’t be mean to your boyfriend and say mean things to him or about him. It is much more productive to have a constructive argument than a screaming match about nothing.

5. MANIPULATE (GASLIGHT)

Do not manipulate your boyfriend, no matter what the circumstances. When you start manipulating your boyfriend into doing things for you – or even staying with you, just know that your relationship will be short-lived because sooner or later, your boyfriend will see right through your manipulative ways and leave. Manipulation is a form of mental abuse and it only creates a toxic relationship and toxic relationships never last.

6. BE INDIFFERENT

Being indifferent to your partner or your relationship will kill your relationship because it communicates that you do not care whether it works out or not. Nobody wants to feel like they are doing all the work in the relationship and indifference to your relationship will make your boyfriend feel alone in the relationship and he will eventually end up leaving.

HOW DO YOU MAINTAIN A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND?

Maintaining a good relationship with your boyfriend is easy when you know how to maneuver around it – and no, we are not saying walk on eggshells around your boyfriend but rather finding ways to make your relationship work for you and your boyfriend in a way that you are both comfortable with.

1. KEEP COMMUNICATION OPEN

Always keep open communication in your relationship. This means that talking about everything – even the things that make you uncomfortable like your insecurities. Talking about your shortcomings (in good moderation) will show your boyfriend that you are vulnerable and also it will clear up your mind because 90% of the time, your insecurities are only big in your head and once you talk about it you see how ridiculous it was, to begin with.

2. SPEND QUALITY TIME TOGETHER

To keep a good relationship with your boyfriend, you need to spend quality time together. This can range from dinner dates, movie nights, or any other kind of date ideas that the two of you might come up with. Spending quality time together allows you to feel connected with each other and catch up with each other’s life events.

3. RESPECT EACH OTHER

If you want your relationship to last, you and your boyfriend need to have mutual respect for each other. This means respecting each other’s privacy, personal space, career choices, and emotional and physical boundaries. Understanding that your partner is a person with their own autonomy will help you understand why they need respect from you and vice versa.

4. SHOW APPRECIATION

Your boyfriend is human and likes to feel appreciated for the things he does for you from time to time. Writing him a thank you note or sending him small random gifts that let him know you appreciate him and everything that he does for you. It is the small things that make an impact on people’s lives. Check out this article on how to surprise boyfriend for no reason.

5. COMPROMISE

You need to have a healthy compromise in your relationship to maintain it. Remember you are not in competition with your partner and no matter what life throws at you; you are on the same team as your boyfriend. This means that sometimes you will need to compromise and meet your boyfriend halfway on certain issues. However, it is also important that you do not compromise your morals or boundaries you set to protect your mental health. Compromise does not mean ‘wear yourself thin’ – if it feels like you’re the only one making constant changes, it is not compromise – you are being taken advantage of. Compromise goes both ways and leaves both partners feeling heard and seen in the relationship.

6. INDEPENDENCE

Perhaps the most important aspect of having a better relationship with your boyfriend is to keep your independence. Have a life and identity outside of your relationship – don’t get lost in being “his girlfriend.” You should have your friends, career, events, and many other aspects of your life separate from his. This does not mean hide your life from your boyfriend, it just means keep a healthy balance between the life you share with him and the life you share with other people. When you are independent and have a life of your own outside of the relationship, you will spend less time overthinking about what can go wrong with the relationship and feeding your insecurities.

HOW CAN YOU HAVE A BETTER RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND?

To have a better relationship with your boyfriend you both have to realize the humanity of the other person. Oftentimes, people tend to place their significant others on a pedestal and get disappointed when their partners don’t live up to their standards. It is important to realize that your partner is human and as such (s)he will come with flaws along with every good thing they bring. Do not go looking for absolute perfection with humans because you will always end up disappointed. The key to having a better relationship with your boyfriend is to accept him as he is – flaws and all. Just as you would like to be accepted for all your imperfections.

HOW CAN YOU BUILD A STRONG RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND?

Statistics show that people who have been together longer have a lower chance of breaking up than people who have just begun dating. For you to build a strong relationship with your boyfriend, you need to have a secure foundation – which means doing all the things that have been discussed in this article from the very early stages of your relationship and not only when the going gets rough. This way, you will ensure that your relationship is not only long-lasting but also a healthy and happy one.