9 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Talk About Your Relationship

8. Put partner in harm’s way

We’ve mentioned earlier that you’d make your partner the victim of other people’s schemes when you talk about them and your relationship with people. You cannot truly tell what a person can do with the information you’ve served them about your relationship and partner. Leave your friends out of your relationship as much as possible. But if you must chat about relationships with friends, make the conversation as shallow as possible when you discuss yours.

9. Breakup

It’s not once we’ve heard of friends breaking up their friends’ relationships and marrying their friend’s ex. By involving others in your relationship, you risk people sabotaging your relationship which might lead to the death of your once-happy relationship. You might be interested in How to fix a broken relationship with your boyfriend and how to fix a broken relationship with your girlfriend.

Things you shouldn’t tell your friends about your relationship.

We understand that relationship topics do come up randomly in conversations with friends, but when you engage in such a conversation, here are a couple of things you shouldn’t tell your friends about your relationship;

1. Past traumas

Unless your partner has made their past traumas public knowledge, it is a terrible idea to ever talk to your friends about it. It is plain disrespectful to your partner to talk about issues of their life when they entrusted such information to you and you alone. How would you feel if your partner shared your traumatic experience with friends when you only intended it for your partner’s ears alone? How would you feel if your partner told his or her friends about your rape experience? Check out What not to do in a relationship with a boyfriend.

2. Family secret

Your partner might let you in on family matters because they trust you and find comfort in you as their partner. You will be betraying this trust by telling other people about your partner’s family matters. A girlfriend or boyfriend tells everyone your business is displaying signs of immaturity and sadly, this is a costly sign of immaturity. Talking to people about family matters can complicate things for the family and can even dent their reputation.

3. Financial difficulty

Unless your partner has permitted you to help him or her lookout for job opportunities, it is insulting to talk to friends about your partner’s financial difficulty. Don’t make a bad situation worse for your partner by letting other people know his financial status. Leave your friends out of your relationship problems, especially this one.

4. Sex life, dirty texts, and videos of your partner

Whether or not your partner is good in bed, it is immature to broadcast your partner’s sexual status and abilities to friends or people without their permission. It is disrespectful to your partner and more so, you could damage his or her reputation. You might also be doing yourself a grave injustice by telling your friends about your sex life with your partner. The person you are talking to might be gunning for your partner. Don’t get surprised if your friend sleeps with your partner, snatch them or just break your relationship out of spite.

5. Partners insecurities

Your partner might be afraid of spiders, small spaces, living alone, red oil, snakes, his parents, and many more, it is not in your place to share their insecurities with people. If they want people to know about it, they will tell people themselves. If you find out that your girlfriend or boyfriend tells everyone your business, you should definitely caution him.

6. Medical history

There are only a few instances when you can disclose your partner’s medical history, for example, an emergency. Other than that, you have no justifiable reason to make your partner’s health history or status a topic of discussion amongst your friends. If you tell people about you and your partner’s medical history, you might be handing them a bullet to use on you. If your girlfriend or boyfriend tells everyone your medical history without your consent, speak to them about it.

7. Disagreements

Dishing out information about your disagreements with your partner to people is unnecessary except in cases of abuse. If your partner is abusing you, we don’t think it is a good idea to keep it to yourself because you do not want to be lonely or you love him too much. Anything outside abuse should stay between you and your partner and your family if they witnessed the disagreement. If your girlfriend or boyfriend tells his friends about our fights, s/he is immature. They are painting you in a negative light which could be costly to you in the future. Be informed about When you should give up on a relationship.

Frequently Asked Question

1. Should your partner tell you where they are?

Your partner should not stress about informing you of every detail of their movement. If they choose to inform you, fine but it is not necessary. Your partner should however not keep you in the loop about their day. It is a sign of respect for you and a safety precaution. If you feel the need to know every bit of your partner’s movement, you have an unhealthy expectation of your partner that could potentially damage your relationship. We urge you to find the root cause of this expectation and deal with it. Don’t ruin a good relationship because of your insecurities.

In the event that your current partner has cheated on you in the past and it has destroyed your trust for him or her, we urge that you inform your partner about your expectation and why you expect that from them. We also urge you to let go of the past if you have chosen to continue the relationship with him. Rebuild your trust by talking to a counselor, being plain with your partner, and actively choosing to let go of your past hurt. If you can no longer trust him or her, it might be best to let them go. You might find our article “how to forgive your spouse for past mistakes” very helpful.

2. Why you shouldn’t talk about your relationship with friends

• You put your partner and relationship at risk of being disrespected by others
• You break your partner’s trust
• You put your relationship at risk of splitting
• Your friends might be envious or jealous of you
• You make your partner and relationship victims of other people’s schemes
• You are at risk of receiving poor advice from friends
• You might encourage unhealthy competition from friends
• You might be pressured to overspill details about your relationship.

In summary…

Anything you say could be used as ammunition against you, your partner, and your relationship. That is why you shouldn’t talk about your relationship with people. Stay woke and learn to tame your tongue.